Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I broke up with my boyfriend of two years about a year ago. It was a difficult decision, but I felt he wasn't willing to meet me even halfway on some major issues.
We kept in touch via text and have been texting several times a day for the past year. I feel like given the time we've spent apart, I've been able to gain some clarity and ultimately realized that most of our problems were caused by me not creating healthy boundaries in our relationship and ending up feeling resented. He tells me he loves me and says that he hasn't gotten over me. Yet, he's said that he doesn't want to get back together... because he's just "not sure..."
One night a few months ago, on a whim, I joined a dating site (yes, it had been 7 months post breakup at this point). I want a real relationship, not just someone to text on a daily basis and I communicated that to him. As soon as I joined, I could tell he looked at my profile (he's from a small town and he used his initials and birthday as his username, making it fairly obvious). At the time, his profile didn't have a picture. He told me he wasn't interested in seeing anyone else, but wasn't in the right "headspace" to get back together. Meanwhile, I had been honest and told him I'd joined the site, but couldn't bring myself to meet anyone from it because I was confused as to what was going on with us.
He's continued to proactively text me on a daily basis, telling me he loves me, misses me, etc. yet still always avoids the working on things and maybe getting back together convo. Well, tonight I went on the dating site and looked at the "who's viewed me" section... His profile now has a picture. Also, he's blocked me, so I can't search him, but since he viewed my profile I can at least see he has a picture.
I am hurt and confused. I don't have many friends, and the ones I do are so busy with their kids I feel like a burden asking to chat or hang out, so he has been my go to over the past year, albeit through text. I feel like I have just lost my best friend, as pathetic as that sounds.