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Break up with my girl friend

hingedtoast
hingedtoast

I broke up with my gf and feeling very hopeless right now. I miss her a lot. It's been 20 days and it keeps getting worse.We have been together for 9 years but now she has moved on. She is not interested anymore. I feel like calling her every now and then but I don't cause I respect her decision. I don't know what to do. I have no real friends who I can share this with. I can't talk to my father. My mother passed away 10 years ago. I don't know where to go and what to do.

plainferkeeps
plainferkeeps
hey man, i'm here to talk. I've been through a break up after 7 years. let me know what you need.
hingedtoast
hingedtoast
I don't know what I need. That's the problem. Everything I do reminds me of her. I can't get my mind off her. I can only remember good things about her. She also hurt me a lot. But all I want is to have her back. But I know that's not possible. And it's hurting. I wish she could understand that I did everything that I was capable of. I made many mistakes before but everything was going fine. And then suddenly, she moved on and stopped calling.
ServantHeart_KingMentality
ServantHeart_KingMentality
Hingedtoast,

I am impressed with your integrity to respect her decision! I am sorry to hear that you are feeling alone and rest assured you are never truly alone. Your situation can be extremely challenging, especially if you were not aware that a break up was coming. Have you considered speaking to a pastor about your concerns. If you and your ex ended on good terms that is a positive. This is not to say that your feelings have changed for her, nor that they will overnight. However, there are some really great options that can help you as you maneuver and adjust to the changes in your life such as community service or your local church. Meetup is a great site/app where various activities in your community are planned and hosted all over the nation. You can look up your local area, find your personal interest and decide if some of the activities are things that you would be interested in. This resource may help you to meet new people, develop new friendships, and engage in responsible, healthy activities that you are interested in. Life is full of awesome experiences and relationships and as you move forward in your journey I pray they bring abundance and fulfillment.

In My Prayers!
Cora_Belle
Cora_Belle
If you profile is correct and you are indeed 23 years old, the relationship started when you were 14. Please change and grow A LOT during the young adult years. It is not uncommon for a person realize that what was right for them at age 14 is not what is right at age 23. You are correct in honoring her decision to move on.

Her decision probably has less to do with anything you have done and more to do with who she has become.

Now is the time for you to determine who you have become. Work to become the best version of "you" and you will attract and find someone who is right for you now.
hingedtoast
hingedtoast
guys.. thank you.. for your wise advice.. I really appreciate it.. I never thought that I could get such good advices from people online. But you guys did what any real friend hasn't done for me.. I don't what to say to show my appreciation to all of you.. I just wanna thank you from the bottom of my heart.. I am still not perfectly okay and still can't focus on what's wrong or right but I have come a long way, and I hope I will try to improve my life from now on...You guys are the best.. Thank you for your awesome support.. Love you guys...