Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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emsan817
emsan817

im not sure how this works but about 4 months ago my boyfriend of almost 4 years broke up with me over the phone and after refused to return any calls or texts. I've been sad and depressed ever since and nothing I do is helping me over come these feelings. I just don't know what do to. 

kbbcoop77
kbbcoop77
4 years is going to take some time to get over...he's doing you a huge favor staying no contact and not stringing you along. Keep trying to stay busy and not ruminate about the split. In time you'll heal and be fine.
mirandac
mirandac
Some join breakup groups or even therapy
If it would help you. Its your grief for your
losses And of your hopes and dreams.

Its the emotional rollercoaster which comes
with grief and it takes time to move thru all
Your feelings and emotions that keep coming.

You think you are cured Then you get triggered
and here you go again, In time Its less severe and
lessens and there is a light at the end of the Tunnel.
HUGS
emsan817
emsan817
Thank you for some of the advice. I ageee that you see the true colors of someone but loving someone for that long and in a matter of 5 minutes it crashes down takes a toll. There was no closure and I can't help but feel that I'll never move on because I will never know why.
Better_days
Better_days
It's tough. I'm currently going through the same thing. My girlfriend of 8 years broke up after I found out she was seeing someone else. I thought we had everything together and was going to spend the rest of our lives together. The only answer on why was she didn't love me anymore. I told myself that the best thing to do was to move on. It hurts everyday but you can't just think about it everyday. You have to keep yourself occupied and think of the good things you have. Your health, friends and family, job, education and so on. I know that the day maybe dark now but with each passing day it gets a little brighter. I know I will find someone else and so will you.