Long story short been with my bf for about 1 years. ( I am 34 and he is 33, I have 3 boys and he has 0 kids) He had been telling me that he was ready to settle down and to have a baby. So we luckily was able to conceive. We were already looking at homes to move in together. We had found one and then everything went downhill from there. He started going out and mind you this has been a problem in our relationship but it was getting better.just this past month he has started to go out frequently drinking with his friends and he told me that he wasnt sure if he wanted to be with me because he did not feel like he was ready to be on lock down and he still wanted to go out and do what he wanted to do. He wanted to raise the child separately he wanted to be a part time father. I was in shock, scared, stressed, hurt, and disappointed. I didnt know what to think. I felt like he was abandoning me and worried to have to raise another child on my own. Eventually I lost the child because of the stress. And he commented that I should have made it a priority to take care of myself. (I was the only one taking care of me) I didnt understand why the sudden change in him and I still dont. He was mean, cold, and cruel. He eventually apologized and said he was sorry but, he still is at the point where he says he dont know what he wants yet, but he is not ready to let me go. I realize this is not healthy for me to be in this type of relationship. He wants me to wait until he makes up his mind? I am confused and dont know how to move on especially if he keeps texting me and everything as if it is all okay. But things are not okay with me, I am extremely hurt and confused by his actions and dont know what to do.