Ask him why. My ex was furious when I told him I was going to un friend him. Even though I told him it wasn't out of anger or anything, but just something I felt I needed to do to be able to move forward. My family was furious with him and no way he would ever be accepted to any of my family stuff. Luckily we dont have children.

Ask him why.

It's a different ball game when you have kids. I operate under the impression that grown ass adults know how to behave like grown ass adults. At the end of the day, IMO, if I even had FB (thankfully, I don't) and my ex "friended" my brother or sister...I would have so many other things filling my thoughts and times that this wouldn't even register as a concern.

If you two are coparenting, then your ex is involved in your life. Period. My ex isn't my favorite person on earth, and I'm not his, but when it comes to my son,he knows I'm the Captain, you know what I mean? So, there has to be a level of "discussion" and "being around each other" because that's what happens when it's about kids and not about a former marriage.

I understand everyone is different, and honestly, I don't get or understand the magnitude of "friending" people on FB, but the more I read about it, the more I can see what a big deal it is.

I would just let it roll off my back.
HUGS!

Hi Il: I find it very unusual that he suddenly friended your family on Facebook 6 years after your divorce. Do you think he somehow heard about your brother's wedding and thus friended everyone to see if he could get an invite and thus attend and stay "in the know" about everything in your life and your family's. I gather it will be a while until the kids/child is an adult and thus you are more free of him.

I'm amazed that your brother invited him to the wedding after 6 years of no contact. Your siblings that declined him I believe are wise. I have heard of ex's that have no support from their own family and friends and will try to cling to the other ex-spouse's family for company and support and that may be it too. I would be guarded in what you say around him.

P.S. I would also talk to your brother that's having the wedding and tell him honestly how you feel. After 6 years of no contact by the ex, your brother would have been wise to have spoken to you about your ex before issuing an invite.

If he is still inviting him, I would tell your brother nicely that you won't attend because "I am family" and your ex is not and they are not going to throw both of you in together on family events in the future to come. You divorced him and didn't adopt him.

It's your family's choice what they want to do, but it's your choice to not get involved in any of it.

Well that's what I'm going to do, just let it roll off my shoulder. If he wants to come to the wedding, let him come and sit by himself all night and see how unwanted he is and what he is missing out on bc his family is too busy suing each other to get together. I don't think he got a real invitation bc the kids keep asking me questions like where is it? what time does it start? when they haven't been concerned about these details this whole time planning.