Thanks Amy, I emailed the list to myself and look forward to checking some out. Reading is very helpful to me.

i bought, and am just getting into, a book called"

"But He Never Hit Me: The Devastating Cost of Non-Physical Abuse to Girls and Women" by Dr. Jill Murray

so far it is good and it looks promising. i am finding so much of this book was "written for me" in the emotional abuse i've endured from relationships with narcissistic men (dated one years before my stbxh as well). yes i have had healthy relationships, but i have also had 2 very damaging ones now, and i had no idea how much toll they have taken. looking forward to some healing through this knowledge.

thanks for your list, i am going to check out some of those as well. HUGS!

A book that I stumbled on years ago is called "Simple Abundance"-a day book of comfort and joy by Sarah ban breathnach. It teaches us to concentrate on the simple things in life. You're supposed to read one passage daily but I get behind. It sits on my night stand so I decided to read in it today. the passage I read today was very timely for a lot of us I think:
Choosing to blossom- And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.....
It goes on to say, how much time, energy and emotion do we expand resisting change because we assume growth must always be painful? it also says that this is our season for growth and people will start noticing the changes in us as will we.

So friends, let's bloom where we are planted!

Thanks HappyMama for that recommendation. That sounds like a must read for me. I was never hit by a spouse but the emotional abuse was huge and ongoing.

Hugs to you all!