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yellow73 03/20/2018

I got home from work last night at 12:05am and my husband said we need to talk. He said that he felt like we have been living separate lives and he thinks we need to separate. He told me on friday he was going to his mom's but he lied. He went and got himself an apartment. I was shocked, confused, hurt. So very hurt and devastated. I was completely blindsided by this. He not once has spoken with me about anything related to our relationship. I knew it had changed and I have been trying to get him to talk with me since last summer. He wouln't talk with me. When I would bring up anything to try and talk with him about our relationship, he would either change the subject or just not answer me. He made this extreme decision without talking with me, without first suggesting counseling. I feel so betrayed. He kept his feelings from me for months and then made this decision and told me about it after it was all said and done. I know a relationship is a two way street and the problem is not all him or me. This action just hurts me so deeply. I have only been able to sleep 2 hours in the last 40. We don't have any children together. We have two dogs and he took one of them. In the 15 mins after I got home and before he left to go to his apartment he said he loves me and wants to go to counseling. How am I supposed to believe that if he had not qualms about making such a drastic decision? I want to believe it and I want my marriage. I'm so hurt.

azugr 03/20/2018

My heart goes with you. This took you by surprise and you felt betrayed. Your husband and best friend didn't have the courage to talk before it was too late. I suffered something like that and It's leave you unsure about what to do. My advise : You take now the decisions, You need time to think I would advise cut contact and take all the time you want to make a decision. (He is taking you for granted and he thinks can get you again anytime)

Fadedgypsy 03/20/2018

I know exactly how you feel my ex-husband's family thought I was after money so after 5 years of marriage I finally decided to shut them up and go have a postnuptial agreement drawn up relinquishing my claim to anything first of all my husband doesn't have money his daddy does and if that's what I was after that's who I would have went after but anyways I wanted to be clear that I did not have any desire for money or anything else so I made it phone call to an attorney to get this started and the attorney said they could not handle my case because they had a case with my name pending my husband walks in that afternoon like everything's peachy and I snapped I mean how can he walk in the house lean over and give me a kiss like everything's just fine when three days prior to that he had filed for divorce. Not because we didn't get along not because one of us cheated but because his family just insisted I was after money so a month before our 6 year anniversary this past January our divorce is final not even 5 hours later after going to court and finalizing our divorce I got a message as to what a huge mistake he had made. It's hell getting hit with something like that and your husband probably running off the advice of other people I heard this preacher performing a wedding on Facebook or something and he was giving out rules to a happy marriage and one of the rules was what goes on in your house stays in your house don't go to your friends and family complaining about your spouse where you're going to go home and forgive your spouse your friends and family are not and it makes it very difficult to maintain your marriage when you have all these people in your face telling you to end it over a problem that you've already solved with your spouse just hold on strong no matter the outcome you will make it through it

yellow73 03/20/2018

We've been together for 8 years and married 5 1/2 years. I think what hurts so much apart from what he has done with no consideration for me is that I know he has been talking to other people but he wouldn't talk with me despite my best efforts to get him to talk.

TeCHer 03/22/2018

Wow, I am so sorry. We feel your pain because we've felt your pain. Maybe the act of leaving itself has him a little scared and questioning the decision. I'm always for counseling. A marriage is worth fighting for. Your hurt is real. Sometimes the result of these stories is a better, healthier marriage. Keep us posted. Will be praying for the two of you.

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