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Blindsided, heartbroken, & left for someone else.

rockstarx8
rockstarx8

My boyfriend completely blindsided me and broke up with me in June after 1 1/2 years.  We had a great relationship, or so I thought- we didn't fight very often and I thought we were happy, I didn't suspect anything and was completely shocked especially since everything seemed completely normal. I even received my good morning text per usual. Later that evening.... he broke up with me.  We were talking marriage,  a family (2 weeks before bu after a night of intimacy, he rubbed my belly and said. "There better be twins in there")  He even took me ring shopping! I had even put an offer on a house 2 days before bu!!!!!


I found out 2 1/2 weeks later he was already in a relationship. He changed his profile pic to him and the ow. He had never posted a profile pic of him and another woman,  not even his ex wife!!  Therefore,  my assumption is that he left me for her.  I just can't wrap my head around what happened.


6 months and I am still completely and utterly devastated and heartbroken.  I am incredibly depressed and lash out all the time.   I just can't seem to get over it.   I think the hardest part is that he was in a relationship immediately and I just don't feel as though I'm enough and he feels she is so much better.   I just have an awful feeling that he's going to end up with her.   


I need help and advice on how to let him go and get over this. I don't what this has done to me and I don't like who I am right now.


Any advice is appreciated 

11Christmases
11Christmases
I'm so sorry. I struggle too with getting over breakups. One thing that struck me about how quickly your ex updated his profile, is perhaps this other woman knew about you, and made him put that pic up of them. There are a lot of aggressive women nowadays, and a lot of men who don't know how to be men. I doubt that she is better than you, but perhaps he does not know how to say "no" to her. Perhaps he is already miserable. December 11 is coming up - the most popular day of the year to break up. If you haven't already please block him on your phone and all social media, in case he tries to reach out.
B3nd3r
B3nd3r
Thats rough. I'm in a pretty low place myself, I was engaged, in a relationship for almost 5 years and still hurting after almost a year and a half. I'm sorry you had to find out about the new relationship and don't know how I would deal with finding that out myself.
I'm also sorry I don't have some amazing advice that will make you feel better and the pain would just dissappear. What I can say is you're not alone. The best thing i can suggest is to find things that distract you, anything that can push the thoughts away and get you out of that feeling even if it is fleeting. I'd also strongly recommend finding a therapist you can see weekly. This forum (and similar ones) can help but nothing can compare to a good therapist. So keep talking, keep looking for and wanting help and advice. In its own way that is a form of hope.