Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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This2shallpass 01/19/2017

I'm in so much pain. It's very hard to cope sometimes. My husband is gone. He just left me. After 11 years of marriage. He was my best friend. I tried counseling but he didn't want to go.

One thing that hurt the most is that he never stopped to think that I was messed up and damaged and I didn't know I had problems and instead of helping me, he just abandoned me.

That's hard to forget on top of all the cheating he did he just treats me like I'm absolutely nothing and never meant anything.

He started to password protect his life for me to stay out of it.

I am truly hurting.

cleigh 01/19/2017

We cannot control the actions of others...we cannot change history...we cannot think of what ifs...
He disrespected you. Do NOT choose to be with someone who does not value you...do NOT choose to be with someone who does not treat you as an equal.
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Think about it - why would we lower our standards, why should we.. Short answer - We NEVER should sell ourselves short. We should think more of ourselves and believe in our hearts that we deserve the best!

The pain is part of the grieving process. Even positive growth can be painful.

mirandac 01/19/2017

I am so sorry for all your pain and hurt.

Continue on with your own therapy, i love
divorce Care for grieving and the divorce
process.

It sounds like you are on bottom keep
Reaching out for love and support from
Good healthy loving caring people.
Churches are great At this time.

I go to alanon and there are other 12 step
Groups if you think they could help you.

If you have Abandonment issues often You
need therapy to help move thru them. HUGS

Quayp 01/20/2017

I will say this from a mans perspective. If a man is cheating on his wife it is less often about what the woman is doing wrong and more about him trying to fill a whole in his life. Unfortunately you are the one that got hurt but if you and he didnt put god first before your marriage children and even each other then he was already failing you as a leader. There is honestly no way anythingcan be good if god is not the center of whatever it is . To often woman put a burden on there husbands that the man can not fill like your problems. This will in the long run make him feel as if he is failing you and make him feel like nothing he will ever do will be good enough for you. Instead he should have sat down with you and went to god to fight for your release from what ever your problems were. He failed you as a leader and protector by not doing so.

speechless1000 01/20/2017

I love cleighs reply!! I need to remind myself of this & so do you! We are worth more. X

This2shallpass 01/20/2017

Thank you so much for all of your kind words of encouragement. I appreciate all of them.
Cleigh...you are so right. It's just hard after 11 years to now nothing.

Quayp....you are correct, but we did or at least I did put God 1st. He did fail me by not taking this to God and talking to me. He wouldn't talk to me or communicate with me. He bottled everything up.

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