Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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crushed-soul14 05/05/2017

So i made the mistake of calling him today and hearing his voice just set me back all over again. It hurts like hell that he's so ok with his decision of not being with me anymore, he goes on with his life everyday like i never existed, why can't these thoughts of him just dissappear, why can't this hurt just go away, why can't i just feel like myself again, i just can't take feeling like this anymore:(

WolfgangMinerva 05/05/2017

I think you and I are at the same stage. We are starting to miss the good and forget about the bad. We both have to be strong and not call our exes. They are jerks. Yeah it hurts. A lot. They seem to not care that we ever existed. We've got to believe that eventually we'll feel better. People tell us cliches, and of course that's stupid because our feelings are real. Know that it is normal to feel like you do. Stay strong. Neither one of us can take any more rejection right now. So as much as we miss the good times we have to not call.

mirandac 05/05/2017

When they are done its over in their mind Often
they have someone new waiting. It will only hurt
You more to keep trying to figure things out.

Try to stay no contact, as much as possible. No
personal chit chat or personal discussions. The
business at hand only, use text or emails.

I have Not spoken to my ex since i moved. We
use the mail only for checks and whatever else.
It Does help you to begin to heal.

Be proactive about your own recovery. The grieving
Process will take awhile as you work thru the issues.
He is gone and this journey is all about you and your
Children not him anymore, HUGS

crushed-soul14 05/05/2017

I think about how he used to tell me about his past relationships, like with his kids mother, how they broke up and got back together a few times and he said he never loved her, so i think y am i not good enough for him to try again and he claims he loves me

mirandac 05/05/2017

Crushed you need to work on your healing
And growing. You can not control or fix any
One but yourself. Thats a hard life lesson, i
Kept hitting my head against a brick wall
Trying to fix him and my marriage, HUGS

crushed-soul14 05/05/2017

Thank u i will try my hardest to not call anymore, i wish there was an Advil for a broken heart and soul.

mirandac 05/05/2017

Crushed Nobody can break your soul, thats
all yours and yours alone.

I found in my own recovery, i had to find my
lost soul Again and it has helped me move
thru stuff i Never thought possible.

Its my emotional Side and wounds that
needed lots of help, love and support and
to be totally honest it still does.

Alanon, therapy and divorce care All three
helped me gain enough hope, strength And
courage to move thru the muck, HUGS

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