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Tonell18 10/01/2016

Hey everyone, just wanted to post something positive in the hopes that it'll help lift someone's spirit today. I was with my boyfriend for 5 years & we lived together for 2 years.

I put up with his 1 night stands & his lying. Only to find out that he recently started DATING his ex girlfriend again. So yea he was living a double life. He basically left me for her & I was a reck. I did & said some things that I'm not proud of but I've come to the conclusion that he is the one that should be ashamed.

He's the one that cheated & lied & refused to leave even after I found out about what he was up to. He still tried to make me belive that he was in love with me & wanted to be with me even though he was still carrying on with her..I cried, there were days I didn't want to get out of bed. Didn't know how I would carry on but I am glad to say I see the sunshine after all the rain.

I still hurt but I get through the day soooo much better. I've forgiven him, I'm no longer angry. I'm not ready to date again but I know that I will be happy. I know that I deserve to be loved & treated with respect. I know that I am a queen & deserve nothing but the best. I am strong & better days are ahead.

HUGSSS to everyone out there that is hurting, just know that this too shall pass.

amazinggrace15 10/01/2016

I was with my X since I was 27, today is my 65th bday. I asked him to leave last January and he went to her and is still with her. same situation as yours and I felt the same way you did. I have been divorced since December 2015.

amazinggrace15 10/01/2016

Bought my own condo, am moving on, most days I am positive about the situation but I do have my days where it would be nice to have someone.

thiscantbeit 10/01/2016

I need to believe that so bad! This too shall pass. :.-(

mirandac 10/01/2016

Great share Tonnel, i better get my bible
Out and read up on relationships. You are doing
Great, it really is about respect, us respecting
Ourselves enough to not let others mistreat Us.

My favorite is if there is no respect there is no
Love. Its simple and easy to understand. My ex
Got very disrespectful after checking out., Among
Other unsavory behaviors. HUGS

christi33c 10/01/2016

Thank u

samantha717 10/01/2016

So happy to hear your update. Very positive and encouraging! Mirandac is absolutely right. I am beginning to see that in my own marriage, which is ending after 23 years. There was never any respect for me. I think you can put up with a lot of challenges in a marriage ... illness, financial, loss, etc. ... if you at least feel respected. Not being respected is the initial wound and it's a big one. Everything on top of that is salt in it.

Tonell18 10/02/2016

Yes without respect & trust you can not have a healthy relationship....I've come a ways, I've been journaling, speaking openly with my friends & family about my hurt. Talking to my therapist & most importantly reading the Bible. I downloaded a bible app (you version) & it has daily reading plans for just about every topic. I'm currently reading the following 3 plans: making wise choices, healing the wounded heart & how to get through what you're going through.
I've been in a good space for a few days now & I'm feeling great. I refuse to take any of his calls because I don't want to risk the chance of him upsetting my balance right now.
I can't wait for the day when someone says his name (he has a very popular name) & I did the tense up. I've made a list of things that I want to improve about myself for myself.
My current outlook on life is positive vibes equal positive outcomes.

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