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Bad days

ll47ll
ll47ll
Sometimes I just feel so down for no reason. Nothing exciting happening in my life, no one to look forward to coming home to at night. No one to talk to, going crazy talking to the walls. Overly exhausted from work, school, motherhood, no time for myself. X still fights about custody and child support, gets me so low. I feel like he got everything he wanted which was mostly make me feel defeated.

I am graduating next month from college after quitting school 12 years ago and my parents do not say a single word of support. They favor my youngest and are planning to have her in the parade with them at cultural festivities this week, nothing planned for my oldest. Am I crazy or is this just too much for someone to hold in the tears?


Lee
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Yeah it's too much!
That's how I feel most of the time....but you do what you have to do to get through hey?

hugs to you and I hope you feel better...
I hate how we ALL have to go through this...
ll47ll
ll47ll
Thank you. I needed that.

Maybe it's because it's the holidays too. I really need to get out and forget my troubles.
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it shows what a strong woman you are to work on yourself and your personal growth at such a trying time. not a lot of people can raise a child,get their education, hold down a job and a household, all while going through a divorce.
be kind to yourself honey, you'll come out the other end of this.
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I hear you!

Hugzzzzzzzz... feel the same.
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(((Hugs))) Lee that is wonder that you are graduating- you should feel so proud. I'm sorry that your family is not supportive but don't let that take away from your accomplishment. You are also a hardworking single mom and that in itself is amazing.

The down days are really hard- but you will get through them.
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Hugs to you. Some days are just like that. I found that once I let myself be okay with feeling down on some days, the better it was for me. Everyday does not have to be bunches of sunflowers, right? Hand in there and do something for you. Maybe take your parents slight as an opportunity for you to have some special time with your oldest.
ll47ll
ll47ll
Thank you. I know I'm not alone when it comes to having unsupportive families, but that fact just does not help. it just sux. Thank you for all your kind words.


Lee
Lucille6
Lucille6
Lee, I am sorry you are having a bad day.BIG HUG/SQUEEZE ((((((((((((((LEE))))))))))))))Hopefully tomorrow will be one of the good days.I am with you sister,Im in horrible funk right.I even snipped at one of my ds friends,stupid of me.
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HUGS HUGS HUGS. Hang in there. We will give you props.

Congratulations on your accomplishments. You know what you have done and what it took to get there. Do not let them take that away from you.

And cry if you want. Do something nice for yourself.
((((HUGS))))
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Not crazy hun! You ROCK for finishing school - that is likely the best thing you could have possibly done for your future and your children's future. It will also make you less dependant on your ex. Stay here with DS and you will always find someone to talk to. Maybe see if there is a group of single mom's in your area that can share babysitting and socialize together to add some fun to your life? You truly are amazing for juggling work, school AND kids. And don't try to hold in the tears - after the kids go to bed, pour yourself a bath and let them out. Hugs.
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Congrats on finishing school. Even if your parents don't show support...your kids will be proud of you some day when they are old enough to realize what you went through to provide them a better life. :)