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At wits end

diemjs
diemjs
I am ready to have a breakdown. I am driving myself crazy with the thoughts of what he said about him thinking about us going to counseling.

I just had a thought of not being here any more, because I cant handle this. I did this to him and our family. I left him, with what I think is good reason. So what am I doing? My head is still spinning!?!?!

WTF am I going to do? I wish, if it werent for my children, I would end this pain and suffering, and not deal with this any more.

I want to talk to him so bad right now. WHY? I dont care about him! Last week I was doing GREAT! Then this!

I have to get dinner on for the kids.
deleted_user
deleted_user
How long have you been separated? Have you gotten any counseling for yourself? Since you left for a good reason, then you shouldn't beat yourself up for that. You had your reasons and you were justified.

I know how torn you are right now, and this is hard enough to go through without also having kids. But they need you and you are a good person who deserves a happy life. That is just around the corner, so hold on for those better times to come.

I am so sorry.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm sorry you are so overwhelmed. You have children and a family that loves and needs you. It's normal to have good and bad days so hang in there just for today. I'm glad you're getting dinner for the kids, it helps to stay busy. Maybe sit in the floor and play a game with them after dinner. My kids can always make me smile. Sending hugs to you.
LisaACOA
LisaACOA
I am so sorry that you are having a terrible time. I am here if you need to talk. If I am not here leave a message and I will get back to you. Hang in there, things will get better. GOD BLESS YOU AND GIVE YOU STRENGTH AT THIS DIFFICULT TIME AND ALWAYS.

Your friend,

Lisa xx
abusehurts
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think you left for good reasons. I know how you feel. It's very overwhelming.
diemjs
diemjs
Thank you all for your input. It really does mean a lot to me.
#1...we have been sep since feb 06. Went to counseling for myself, then was doing GREAT until now:)

I ate some dinner and am doing better. Thanks
Hugs to you all:)
deleted_user
deleted_user
Glad you're feeling better. Stay strong. You can do this!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Leaving doesn't mean you don't love him. Leaving him means you tried and it didn't work . You know better than anyone what's best for you and you know why you left. I wouldn't think you made a decision like this lightly. Trust yourself. Know that you did the right thing.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't know what your reasons were for leaving, but trust your inner warnings. It is normal to miss this person of so many years, I miss mine as well, but there are good reasons why we won'r get back together.
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