I get told the same thing...just get back on your horse so to speak. The best advice is not to try so hard. Just be yourself and when the right one comes along, you will know. You have to be patient. Because you don't want the next one to be a rebound. That is what I just ended. So I am definately waiting this time, taking my time when it does come up and being myself and enjoying life. When that right one comes along, enjoy her for what she can offer you. Hang in there, it will get better!!

Yep, I've heard the same thing from my friends, you know, go ahead, get back out there. So, I was fortunate enough to meet someone a while ago, someone nice, intelligent, all sorts of great things I could say. Since it had been so so long for me, I hadn't dated since the 80s, I thought it would be weird. But it wasn't, we had a great time, laughing and talking, sharing stories. But, afterwards, it still didn't feel right, it was still too soon for me, so I had to tell her that I just can't see her, not now, not yet.

Your heart will tell you when its time. Or at least that is what I think.

I am told much the same thing, I haven't dated since 1971, ughhhhhhhh, and that was the one and only then I married him.
It is hard to think about dating someone when you have to force yourself to do it, that is where I am at this time anyway. My EX wasted no time at all, just like a 20yrs old. Maybe I have to introduce him to you and he could give you some of his dating tips, and what you have to do to move on within 4 monts of being separated, LOL.
You will know when the time is right, I think you have to feel it in your heart. One day when you least expect it you will meet someone that gives you that funny feeling in your stomach, butterflies I guess. Until I can feel something like this I know I am not ready for dating whether he is or not. Right now I think we have to get our hearts in order and our heads on straight.

Take Hun, don't worry about it so much, your time will come if that is what you want.

Hugs

Asking someone out never gets easier with age. Back when I was single, I would revert back to the 9th grade when I approached a hot lookin' chick. I would say things like: " What time do you have - would you like to go out on a date?" and "I like cheese, do you?" Of course, I had to adapt this approach at Star Trek sci fi conventions, where I would dress as a Klingon warrior, with lines like: "Human Female! Prepare to be boarded!"

But I digress. Be yourself but also be confident. Chicks dig confidence. But whatever you do, don't reveal your true inner feelings because most guys know that we have no "true inner feelings." The location of the brain where they would normally reside is occupied by NFL statistics.

This scares the shit out of me. Even though I am far from ready to even think about it I am worried that when I finally am I am going to have no clue.

"Just be yourself" is very good advice.

And not only will you know when Ms. Right comes along, you'll also know when Ms. Right Now comes along, too.

:)

Someone told me, all you have to do is smile and say hello. I'll try that next time I go out, whenever that is.

you dont need another woman anytime soon just sit back and enjoy yourself.Go back and do what you did by yourself when you where with her Me Ill go fishing just sit there for hours and I know im good by myself (plus woman are nuts sorry DS ladies)

omg! edwardc i think ive heard that line while i was at a convention! lol

i do not envy you guys. if i had to be the one to ask the other person out i would just buy a bunch of batteries and late night video rentals. you males can be confusing though. sometimes i cant tell if a man is just being friendly or if he is being too friendly.

I'll throw my two cents in, even though I'm in no way ready to date yet.

I think you should try flirting first. Go out with a bunch of guys (or even lady friends) and just practice smiling, talking, flirting, etc. Don't take it all so seriously.

I'm not looking for anyone right now, but was with my best friend in a group and a guy in the group made a concious effort to turn toward me, smile, make eye contact, etc. It took me a moment to realize, "Whoa, I think he's interested in me." I was totally out of practice for what the cues are. Haven't dated in almost 30 years!

So moral of my story, Practice makes perfect.
Good luck.

chics are confusing they want an honest loyal man with this that and the other Ok cool here i am will not hide anything but then they are like Im not interested

scottp757,

You never tell a chick your life story. If she asks a question, answer honestly but preserve some air of that mystery. Also, if you are inherently a nice guy (like me) try to act dangerous, sometimes. I used to drive my muscle cars on first dates - not to impress mind you - but to get that heart rate pumping during those high speed parallel parking maneuvers.

ahah, Edward, thank you for the laugh! Your post was hilarious.

BTW: Qapla'! Nice to meet you!

keep you eyes open and in your normal daily actions you will come across someone you may find interesting--you can ask someone just for coffee --baby steps but steps none the less

muscle cars only work if you let her drive =)