Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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bakerinspired 07/29/2017

First post to anything. I don't have any family and not 1 friend. My 11 year marriage is ending. We've been together for 20 years. He was my best friend. About a month ago, our relationship changed to total strangers. No blow up argument, just distance. I tried to get him to talk to me an it was an auto shut down. It's to the point where he comes to the house maybe twice a week and out the door he goes. Finally, he tells me that I'm not happy, me! We have had some very big challenges through the years, but this is like dealing with an entirely different person. My 14 year old son asks me what the deal is and I don't know what to say. I feel like I'm in limbo and have moments of rage and then trying not to say something you can't unhear. We were Barbie and Ken and the poster for getting through the bad and it made us stronger together. I don't know what happened. We both have always said we would walk away if there was another person, for the other person to have some dignity. Am I blind to his assurance there isn't someone? I'm afraid of what I might hear from out there. Kid gloves, I'm fragile. Anyone?

ifinallygetit 07/29/2017

Hugs. It is a rough road but you will survive. My ex left me after 17 years of marriage saying he "loved me but wasn't in love with me" I am 4 month post divorce and have reconciled that I wasn't happy in the marriage and that he actually did me a favor. It hurts like hell trust me. Here if you need to talk

sjs777 07/29/2017

your story has similarities to my own. feel free to reach out or look to my journals for my notes and finding through my own journey

jojored 07/29/2017

I find that people don't always hold themselves up to what they promised early on in the marriage. If in your gut you think he has someone else, you may be right. Or maybe he's grooming a relationship out there. Sudden distance from him feels to me like he's hiding something. Did he say you're not happy, or that he's not happy?

mirandac 07/29/2017

He sounds checked out and he probably has found
someone new so be prepared. Get into therapy And
join a divorce care group. Reality is where you need
To live as pain filled as it is. The grief and rejection is
overwhelming at this stage.

I think a lot of marriage go along well for the first 10
years. Then things start to change slowly. With us it
was emotional intimacy problem That can be the slow
death of any marriage. I did Not even understand it
myself of the whys Until i started alanon and therapy.

My ex was emotionally checked out of the marriage
and had been for the last 12 years that we were together
that does not usually end well and it can lead to Them
Finding someone new then leaving or just walking away.
My ex was just done it was all over in his mind and he was
Not going it alone either, HUGS

Tomorrowisanewday 07/29/2017

I am very new to all of this at well, and frankly uncertain if things are completely over even though it feels empty inside. I can be an ear and I could definitely fill yours as well. Feel free to reach out. This is my first day and I am reading/ searching through several posts for inspiration and a little direction.

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