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wonj
wonj

Today would have been our 7th anniversary.  I am sad that I will not be celebrating with my wife... but rather in the process of getting divorced.  I miss my wife... but I can't ever forget that she cheated and continues her relationship with her new man.  Been having up and down days in terms of sadness and mood.  I wish this whole healing process could somehow be fast forwarded.  What are some of the things you have done to get through your past anniversary days?    

LoatandWandering
LoatandWandering
i really dont know that answer cause I just had my relationship end a month ago...i am dreading the holidays though coming up..Halloween, Thanksgiving, xmas..etc...becuase this will be the first time in over a decade that I will NOT be with her sharing those moments. very scared like you im sure....and knwing she is happy with someother guy make me sick and down all the time. i assume ill be doing alot of those holdays and anniverary things with friends .
ineedlove
ineedlove
I just recently separated from my cheating husband, although I still love him and desperately want him back I don't think people change. This was the second time his done this, the first time I had just had my daughter so I had a lot to loose. I explained to him that having a relationship with his current 'lust interest' would never sit well for me and I would always have a problem with it. Do you have friends that know the situation? That understand you need to occupy yourself? Maybe look for a support group in the area you live in? Am thinking of trying to find something like that where I live. Am not ready to explain to my friends that my relationship of 12 years failed and that they will no longer have R around so am hoping to find an outside source.
Anonymous112211
Anonymous112211
I was fresh out of my house and still dealing with the fresh feeling of filing of my divorce papers. I was hurt, angry and pissed at the world. My wife cheated 7 years ago. We tried to make do, but it was never the same. I wish I would have ended it then and had these 7 years to make a new go at the world. I stayed for our newborn and our toddler.

What I can tell you 5 months in, is that life is a whole lot better. Sure there are bad days every now and then. Mostly disagreements on our kids and of course how to separate our assets.

I used to come on here an log my journal every day. I would read them at the end of the week and hope I saw progress. I would talk to my counselor. I went back to church. I walked a lot (5+ miles a day).

But for my anniversary, I took a weekend and visited my family up north. I got to visit the beautiful lakes and enjoy the natural beauty. I did what I needed to do for me. It was strange after living for my family to do that. But It was the first step. And it was a necessary step. Good Luck.