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Hi all - a question.
I was married for 25 years. That marriage broke up due to infidelity on his part. I dated a bit after the separation, and then met a (what I thought was) great guy. We moved in together, he lived in my home, totally emeshed in my life, proposing to me 2 years ago, and this past New Year's Day left. I was away from home. When I came home, poof, he was gone.
The question is this. I am not ready to date yet. I just can't do it. But, I am a very social person. I love to eat out, to drink out, to hang out. If I lived in London, as I did many years ago, going to my neighborhood pub alone would be completely normal. I could go, with my Kindle, sit at the bar, enjoy a few, listen in on a few conversations, and go home, having done SOMETHING that night. But living in America - may I do this? (I am mid-50's, full of energy and life!!!!).
Is this a little too "Looking for Mr. GoodBar"?????
I was married for 25 years. That marriage broke up due to infidelity on his part. I dated a bit after the separation, and then met a (what I thought was) great guy. We moved in together, he lived in my home, totally emeshed in my life, proposing to me 2 years ago, and this past New Year's Day left. I was away from home. When I came home, poof, he was gone.
The question is this. I am not ready to date yet. I just can't do it. But, I am a very social person. I love to eat out, to drink out, to hang out. If I lived in London, as I did many years ago, going to my neighborhood pub alone would be completely normal. I could go, with my Kindle, sit at the bar, enjoy a few, listen in on a few conversations, and go home, having done SOMETHING that night. But living in America - may I do this? (I am mid-50's, full of energy and life!!!!).
Is this a little too "Looking for Mr. GoodBar"?????
Here is what they said. The best way to handle yourself at bars is to go to the middle stool--not the ends. On the middle stool, position yourself sort of sideways, so it appears you are available for conversation. Put the phones and Blackberries away.
Also, no telling stories of any ex boyfriends or husbands, and not tales of woe, this is a a good time. Not getting drunk as the good guys really aren't in for a drunk woman.
I hope this helps somewhat.
I have found one's where there is live music, and no one thinks it is strange for a single woman to show up to enjoy the food, a couple of drinks and the music.
Some other places seem to have the reputation of being pick up joints and guys can be a pain there, because they are convinced a single woman is looking to be picked up.
Good luck. Just go for it, and test the waters in the places near where you live. You might find some locals there who would enjoy some new company. Enjoy getting out!