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Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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brittany8 11/28/2014

Yesterday morning I recieved the " Happy Thanksgiving, I miss you text" from the STBX. I have not had any contact with him in over a month, and was shocked to say the least, that I would have gotten that text. Every time I take a step forward, I go 2 back. I made it through yesterday, and I didn't cry until everyone had left. I wanted to say how much I miss him, but I know it would mean nothing to him. He was with her. This ride seems to never end, and this morning I am back to crying...... Oh please make all this stop!!!

Sarasalt 11/28/2014

I'm sorry you're having such a rough morning. I can't imagine it was easy to keep it all together when you were surprised like that. If you wanted to tell him you miss him but didn't, that's some real strength. I'd consider that a big step forward. And for what it's worth, you're in good company - I've spent this morning crying, as well.

I hope that you find some peace and relaxation today.

Weakminded 11/28/2014

HE IS SO SELFISH!!!

You have to really force yourself to delete any message that gets through from him. If you all have kids together, you may have to temporarily recruit someone to read texts from him. That person can tell you whether or not the text has anything to do with the kids. If it doesn't, tell the person to delete the text for you. If he calls, you direct the conversation and make sure it is only about the children. Example:

Him: Hey Brittany
You: Are you calling me about Child X or Child Y
Him: No, I just want to...
You: (hangs up phone)

tcl18 11/28/2014

I'm with you. Rough day for me too. Haven't cried yet but its coming. I really feel for all of you going thought this because I know how crappy it feels, but some how, I don't feel as bad knowing that there are others going through what I am going through and that it does get better.

ALD13072 11/28/2014

I have been on this board for a year and a half and reply #2 is some of the best advice I have ever seen!

Stay strong and keep moving forward!

deleted_user 11/28/2014

I'm so sorry that this happened the way it did. Hugs** it sounds like you were well on your way to feeling somewhat better about the split especially with the 30 days no contact. Then everything just gets tossed upside down when you get a text like that from him. I just had something similar happen to me yesterday. My ex texted " happy thanksgiving. Congratulations on graduating medical school. I'm really proud of you for sticking it out even though you hated the program" ....kind of a f'd up compliment ha. Anyway it sent me into the same crying upset tailspin that you seem to feel now too. It sucks I'm so sorry yof have to go through this. Its hard But I think not responding to him is the thing to do. He is being selfish and lonely and should be more understanding

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