Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
To all out there that are just starting a journey, you are Blessed.
I know how weird that sounds. Pain and loss.
I remember it so well. It can be addictive. Feeling like you are floating or not really part of this world.
But know its a blessing. It took me forever to know what was happening to me.
I could'nt breathe, I worked in a daze. Nothing felt real.
But this is a time of spiritual learning, when you are in this place you can learn like never before.
I wasted so much time, people all around me watched as I self distructed. It was not pretty.
I know missing that person to the point of pain.
When we learn to respect ourselves and really have a good look back we know that they were not the one.
We worked so hard to make it work, we lost ourselves.
Look back and you will know that in so many ways we may have been better for them than they were for us.
Own it and grow I say.
When we finally let go we can focus on ourselves, what are we in need of?
Most of what we need is right there inside us.
How can anyone possible love you enough to take care of all your needs?
As it has been said we cannot be good for someone else until we are good for us.
I took to long to really understand some of the concepts behind healing.
Be kind to yourself and give yourself a break.......
While we are looking for the right one hopefully we notice all the warning signs, that we have now learned from this experience.
I have learned what truely helps me to be happy... ( Peace )
I spent so much time trying to make sure life was good for others I forgot about me.
I have become more self centered just enough to know when to walk away and know I will never be alone.
I have family and friends. I date a little and enjoy the company of women......but when it does not turn into something: know the right one is out there, I'll probable trip over her and go...well there ya are!
Please spend as little time in 2018 in pain as possible.
Go ahead and spoil yourself.
I have a certain faith, like you, that when I'm healed and happy that I will find the person I'm really supposed to be with with ease. I really hope she's out there getting herself squared away right now just like me. I admit that as a soon to be single dad of two young girls at the age of 41 I sometimes have my doubts that anyone will be interested in even dating me, but my situation might actually be what helps me find the right one... And if not I will have already learned to be ok without a partner.
Your words inspire me to let go some more and trust in myself. Couldn't have read this at better time. Thanks!
well put lol. ..
quite often we can get so wrapped up in looking after someone else's needs
that we forget our own...
It’s a shame how someone you love can hurt you so deeply. I was amazing amazing woman to him, I know this and he knows this.
You can’t make someone appreciate you. You can’t make them do anything. But you can let them go and move on with your life.
My advice, don’t jump straight into another relationship. It won’t work. You can’t cover feelings for someone else with lust. You have to heal yourself and accept everything for what it is, only then will you truly be able to move on and heal.
As you said, be kind to yourself. Understand what you’ve gone through is traumatic. Do things that make you happy.
God bless us all who are going into the new year having to rebuild ourselves because someone else’s carelessness caused us so much pain. We will get through this.
❤️