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For some strange reason I tend to analyze everything I do. I think about what the possible outcomes are, what could happen, what to do if this happens, what to do if that happens, and constantly do things like that.
I am really trying to get out of this habit and trying to stop being so rigid in my plans for the future. It is okay to plan but loose plans are far better than rigid plans.
Sometimes the analysis and stragity approach has really paid off in crisis but in normal times it isn't needed.
Through my healing process I have become less rigid in these plans and I am getting through the worrying thing. I have began to realize that I will always land on my feet and things will work out in the way that they are supposed to and no amount of worrying will change nature's due course.
Still today I catch myself trying to plan things out to a T. I have to stop myself and say what happens happens. I guess that that part of things being uncertain or not knowing causes a lot of grief on my part so I have to learn that these things aren't bad and things happen the way that they are supposed to happen.
Anyone else know what I am talking about?
I am really trying to get out of this habit and trying to stop being so rigid in my plans for the future. It is okay to plan but loose plans are far better than rigid plans.
Sometimes the analysis and stragity approach has really paid off in crisis but in normal times it isn't needed.
Through my healing process I have become less rigid in these plans and I am getting through the worrying thing. I have began to realize that I will always land on my feet and things will work out in the way that they are supposed to and no amount of worrying will change nature's due course.
Still today I catch myself trying to plan things out to a T. I have to stop myself and say what happens happens. I guess that that part of things being uncertain or not knowing causes a lot of grief on my part so I have to learn that these things aren't bad and things happen the way that they are supposed to happen.
Anyone else know what I am talking about?
Whenever other humans are involved, you can plan to your hearts content, and provide for every outcome you can think of, but assuredly, they will think of something you haven't. ;)
I tend to take chances and when they don't turn out the way I didn't planned it....I get sad.
*passes the bowl...* "OCD anyone??"
It is nice to finally unwind.
One other thing that I had found out that I can get stuck in "Loop" Thinking when my anxiety acts up. Funny but now that the divorce is done and job thing is done I am not feeling any anxiety and my self-confidence is swelling.
This is one thing that I question of myself over and over and over again. How do I change this? Do I really need to change it? Do I even want to change it? Is this just me, the way I am and I need to accept it? Why do I want to change it? Am I changing for me or for someone else just in order to gain their approval/acceptance? What do I hope/want to accomplish by making this change if I decide it's even necessary? How will my life be improved or changed? Is all this questioning and analyzing of my questioning and analyzing just more of the same?
Crazymaking, isn't it???? LOL
I do this too.
Exercise helps me be less this way, and more in the moment.