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I'm actually quite embarrassed posting this, but here it goes. I got home from a week long business trip Friday night. My wife, suffering from insomnia for over a month saw a doctor that same week and had been prescribed Ambien by her doctor.
Apparently, an hour after I got home my wife popped an Ambien while I was in the shower. When I got out of the shower, she was lying in my bed watching TV (she has been sleeping in the guest room since January, when she told me she wanted a separation). I was surprised, but didn't question why she was watching TV in my room when there's one in the guest room. After about 15 minutes I told her I missed her while I was gone and for some reason the temptation to kiss her was overwhelming.
Anyway, she didn't push me away as I feared and we ended up having sex. I had to wake up early in the morning, as I had an already planned outing with my friends. I left the house prior to her waking up. I was happy and feeling pretty good all day, because we are going to work things out, right?
I got home early that evening and she acted as if nothing happened the night before and was acting exactly the same way she did the previous past weeks. I asked her if she recalls what happened last night and she replied, "No, why, what happened?" I just replied with a "never mind" and went up to my room to shower. Nothing was discussed or even mentioned about the previous night.
Perplexed, I did some research on Ambien that same evening and learned one of the side effects is, and I quote ".., after taking this drug, people have gotten out of bed and driven vehicles while not fully awake ("sleep-driving"). People have also sleepwalked, prepared/eaten food, made phone calls, or had sex while not fully awake. Often, these people do not remember these events." The website I got that info was http://www.rxlist.com/ambien-side-effects-drug-center.htm
Well, that explains it... All along I thought she missed me and wanted to finally work things out. My heart once again dropped. Not sure how to act if ever put in this situation again when she's on Ambien. I'm not going to be a pig and take advantage of her, as I have too much respect for her and even more respect for me to do that. Knowing she had sex with me only because she was doped up only made me feel even worse and more depressed about our failing marriage.
Apparently, an hour after I got home my wife popped an Ambien while I was in the shower. When I got out of the shower, she was lying in my bed watching TV (she has been sleeping in the guest room since January, when she told me she wanted a separation). I was surprised, but didn't question why she was watching TV in my room when there's one in the guest room. After about 15 minutes I told her I missed her while I was gone and for some reason the temptation to kiss her was overwhelming.
Anyway, she didn't push me away as I feared and we ended up having sex. I had to wake up early in the morning, as I had an already planned outing with my friends. I left the house prior to her waking up. I was happy and feeling pretty good all day, because we are going to work things out, right?
I got home early that evening and she acted as if nothing happened the night before and was acting exactly the same way she did the previous past weeks. I asked her if she recalls what happened last night and she replied, "No, why, what happened?" I just replied with a "never mind" and went up to my room to shower. Nothing was discussed or even mentioned about the previous night.
Perplexed, I did some research on Ambien that same evening and learned one of the side effects is, and I quote ".., after taking this drug, people have gotten out of bed and driven vehicles while not fully awake ("sleep-driving"). People have also sleepwalked, prepared/eaten food, made phone calls, or had sex while not fully awake. Often, these people do not remember these events." The website I got that info was http://www.rxlist.com/ambien-side-effects-drug-center.htm
Well, that explains it... All along I thought she missed me and wanted to finally work things out. My heart once again dropped. Not sure how to act if ever put in this situation again when she's on Ambien. I'm not going to be a pig and take advantage of her, as I have too much respect for her and even more respect for me to do that. Knowing she had sex with me only because she was doped up only made me feel even worse and more depressed about our failing marriage.
The thing that can be confusing is that you are lucid when on it.. you don't seem "drunk" or "out of it". you are normal. but something is blocked in your brain (that is what the drug does).
there were multiple times that i would wake and have no memory of having sex. my partner would be hurt or offended on some level..
didn't mean i didn't enjoy it.. or wasn't real.. but my brain was not at full function and i truly could have no memory.
i hope this helps.
my break up is hard.. bc sometimes i would msg my ex when on ambien. he grew to understand that chances are i didnt remember.
that doesn't take away from your feelings of being vulnerable and let down.. but hopefully that does explain that it is possible. it happened to me numerous times. (that is why you should only take when in bed, in safe place with someone you trust)
My doctor only gave me 30 days worth with no refill, he said to take it only to break the cycle of no sleep, not intended to be taken every night.