You are not insane and there's nothing wrong with the way you are feeling! As far as contacting him by text, you have to do what works for you. I don't have kids with my X so I'm glad for that, otherwise I would have to contact her which is something I would dread having to do. As far as I'm concerned, she's someone I use to know and thats it.

He gave up on you so you are entitle to feel the way you do. I felt a lot of the same feelings, I was angry and hurt and I have very little communication with my stbx. Besides the fact that I can no longer believe any thing that comes out of her mouth I really don't want to be around her or talk to her. I have nothing to say to her and really don't care what she does any more.

My stbx, after 5 years of me devoting my life to him, decided he didn't want to "try" anymore because it was too hurtful. His idea of "trying" was drinking with his friends every weekend ALL NIGHT LONG. It's not the same, because you left him, but still...

Nope, you are not insane.
I left my husband in August. During the "I'm leaving you talk" He accused me of cheating, (I did not)
He then said that we should share a lawyer to save money.
Not once did he ask me to stay or reconsider.
One month to the day he started dating his gf. One day later, he had sex with her (I have told our mutual friend to spare me the details from now on)

I want nothing to do with my ex and I just want it to be over. That being said, I wanted him to love me enough to try. To fight for me. And he didn't. It made me wish I'd left him 3 years ago.

No, you are not insane. It hurts to think that someone you loved could dismiss you so easily, when it hurts you so.

I think texting or emailing him for now should be okay. I know I still cannot bear the thought of hearing my ex's voice or having to ever see him again. My kids are grown, so I never have to see or hear from him. I haven't contacted my ex for months now, and I still feel the same.

Take care of yourself.

my stbx moved in with his gf about 24 hours after he left me. i thought we were separating to think things through. looks like i was a little blind. so giving up to soon?? i know how you feel. and no you are not insane. he just didnt take the "til death do us part" seriously. he should have altared his vows to say " til i have to put work into us"

Counseling would be really helpful for yourself, I am getting some myself. You deserve to honor your own feelings. Good for you for getting support here.

Sorry for the unsupportive opinion, but I don't feel any pity. If you left him, chances are you have no idea what he went through for those three months. For the guys, its shear agony, and I for one am happy to see he has at least found a distraction to deal with the pain. I apologize if I misunderstood the question, but my answer is yes.

I know I dont have all the information but I find it interesting that you state he gave up on you...Seems like the "giving up" is a two way streak here. Did you not leave him?

Sounds like the classic pursuit and distancer one chases the other runs. then when the other gets tired of running the other chases.

Seems like both of you are need of some counseling. I would recommend that you just begin to work on yourself. I dont know the entire story and why you felt compelled to leave your husband but I'm sure you have had your valid reasons.

For whether or not you SHOULD be feeling the way you feel. I would self examine what you truly are feeling.. Sometimes it's not just anger and the anger may not necessarily be placed i one person or thing.

Counseling is an important step in healing a relationship. If both parties are not willing to go, I can see where you may have felt you had no choice. I also know there were financial problems that he caused and the wounds from those run very deep. God bless :)