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i can post this topic in several formus and probably will fof other sapects, but my depression is getting worse, for alot of reasons,
my story in a nutshell, wife had multiple affairs last year, she moved out, kds stay with me 5 or 6 nights a week, our agreement i support them while they are here you take care of things when you have them any major financial burdens we split. anyhow living in our house with our dog the kids and everything made every thing financially tight, and i gave her back the house as of Nov 1. i moved into a half a duplex, could not take the dog, due to the lease so i left the dog with her and her boyfriend who lives with her, my kids are always with their friends so i am alone alot, i have tried going out, but i am not much into the bar scene, i lost alot of friends due to how my spouse was or because i grew up and they did not, and i dont get out to meet people i have had a few dates in the last year all one and dones. never a second date, one because of me, the others because the women were crazy or i dont know,
anyhow, i have gone on online dating but i cant even get people to talk to me, so my slef esteem is taking a nosedive, i used to be confident and outgoing now i cant even remember how to start off any thing with a person, as in interacting or anytrhing, its like i have no desire to do anything but work make sure my kids are taken care of and lay on my couch. i just cant seem to shake this funk i am in and get out of it. i guess yesterday after i took my kids to their mothers at 10 am and was alone totally on xmas everything kind of hit me and i know people get depressed over holidays but its not just holidays that has me in the funk its everything, and i cant crawl out.
my story in a nutshell, wife had multiple affairs last year, she moved out, kds stay with me 5 or 6 nights a week, our agreement i support them while they are here you take care of things when you have them any major financial burdens we split. anyhow living in our house with our dog the kids and everything made every thing financially tight, and i gave her back the house as of Nov 1. i moved into a half a duplex, could not take the dog, due to the lease so i left the dog with her and her boyfriend who lives with her, my kids are always with their friends so i am alone alot, i have tried going out, but i am not much into the bar scene, i lost alot of friends due to how my spouse was or because i grew up and they did not, and i dont get out to meet people i have had a few dates in the last year all one and dones. never a second date, one because of me, the others because the women were crazy or i dont know,
anyhow, i have gone on online dating but i cant even get people to talk to me, so my slef esteem is taking a nosedive, i used to be confident and outgoing now i cant even remember how to start off any thing with a person, as in interacting or anytrhing, its like i have no desire to do anything but work make sure my kids are taken care of and lay on my couch. i just cant seem to shake this funk i am in and get out of it. i guess yesterday after i took my kids to their mothers at 10 am and was alone totally on xmas everything kind of hit me and i know people get depressed over holidays but its not just holidays that has me in the funk its everything, and i cant crawl out.
So I have decided that once I am ready I will do things that I enjoy and hopefully meet someone that way. I have three dogs so someone who likes pets is important to me, so I might spend time at the dog park and meetups has all kinds of dog groups. Have you tried meetups in your area? It's online but not dating, more groups stuff like going to movies, museums, hiking, etc. Maybe the have a group that you might be interested in.
Think of things you enjoy, get out and do those things and if it is meant to be you will meet someone. Hugs to you....
I only say all this because given your posting of not so long ago, and knowing your story for a few years now, you may be a little tender trying to go in cold turkey and expecting a positive outcome immediately. So you have to be sure you are ready. Done with all that crap from before cus if your self esteem, confidence and whatever else that needs to be in good standing isn't, it can do more damage then good.
So I'd slow down and just settle in to making new friends and getting your happiness in order for yourself before you try to involve, at this time, the crazy hot mess dating can be.
just my opinion.