Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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NiaLove 02/22/2018

Hey guys its been a while, I have been broken up with my sons father since april 2017 almost a year. And unfortunately the pain is still here as if its only been a day. I am so broken inside. I have so many questions that remain unanswered on our relationship. It hurts me everyday to live and take care of our child. He moved on rather quickly with a girl i knew from high school its super awful. I dont live in the same town anymore which sorta helps but yet I still have the thoughts 24 hours a day. Whats he doing? or why her? or how could he? etc. It pains me so much knowing someone who i planned a future with no longer loves me i am so depressed and metally sick over it i feel like giving up at times. I told him i dont wanna be in touch about our son until i am fully healed from the pain but yet i keep finding myself finding excuses to call. I dont know wtf to do I feel I am slowly dying inside. We didnt have the best relationship i wasnt that great to him and he was kinda messed up at times/ not good for me but somehow no one that changes the way i feel. I still love him very very much and pray all the time to fix our family and rebuild which i know is crazy but I cant help it. I pray to God to help me heal but its not happening. I cant work due to the depression and have distanced myself from family. Man the pain is just so so hard to deal with.

Shaner23 02/22/2018

I understand completely , it's been 5 months for me and I wonder how he can have moved on and why he's happy and I'm miserable but I'm good at others not knowing maybe try therapy.

Carla32 02/23/2018

I’m sorry that really sucks. Sounds like you’re spending a lot of time thinking about all the whys and what ifs. I highly recommend trying some meditation. YouTube is full of great guided meditations! You have to get yourself out of the thinking patterns your in. It’s hard I know! Big hugs. You can do this!

Barnabas2017 02/23/2018

I'm feeling such compassion for you. I had a breakup where I moved and it was good but it wasn't, as the feelings, questions and emotions followed me too. It sounds so cliché' but he sounds like he was not mature enough for a relationship w/you and not ready to be a "responsible man." When that's the case, you end up leading the family. That's now how we;re created as women. We're supposed to be helpmates. I suffered two great losses (breakups) in my journey so far as it relates to dating. I overheard a lady talk about a book "How we love" and I book a copy...wow....I saw myself, my parents and my relationships in every other chapter. I'm staying single until I get to know me a little better. I know that you're going to be fine and your son will also. I turned out fine as did my 2 kids. I trusted that "if it" was supposed to be in my life it would come...and if it was supposed to leave my life, God would remove it. His reasons I don't understand, but because humans are mostly led by emotions, I decided to trust in God's timing. Praying for your strength and coming into the awareness that YOU are beautiful, valued and loved, just as you are.

NiaLove 02/23/2018

@Barnabas2017 Thanks so much for the kind words. I appreciate it very much!

joanna2006 02/23/2018

I think we love our men but really in love with the thought of what could a been,,,,, I'm thinking that even for my case

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