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almost 2 weeks no contact

heartofgold4always
heartofgold4always
I was the one who told him I did not want to continue the relationship because I had found myself in a depression because I was hurt by this man much of the time. It has been almost 2 weeks with no contact. I am so sad. This is not what I wanted and I tried very hard and did so much work on myself and the relationship. He did not even after I gave him a second chance as he promised he would. I continued to give and let things go and wasn't getting what I needed. I find myself missing him thinking about the good times we shared. I am so tempted to reach out to him but know that will not be helpful in any way. I am in pain and trying to get through this. I know we both need to move on but the thought of that is so sad to me.
sherillc
sherillc
Healing and becoming ready for a healthy relationship with a healthy partner is hard work and takes a lot more time that I would like for it too. You can do this. If you need help, get it. But you can definitely do this.
heartofgold4always
heartofgold4always
It hurts bad and it sucks but I know I am doing the right thing. Thank you for your thoughts
MyTrueColors
MyTrueColors
I am so sorry for your pain. It does suck and it sucks that the only way to get past the pain is to go thru it. It does get better. Honor your feelings & feel them without judgment. Something that can help a lot is to write a 'good bye' letter(s) to him telling him everything you will and won't miss about him and the relationship.

Do NOT give/send it to him. Instead, burn it. Create a funeral-like ceremony around it. You can do this as many times as you need to.

Also, it will help to write down all the things you won't miss about him, like him promising to work on the relationship and not doing it. So that when you find yourself missing him & tempted to reach out to him, you can remind yourself of who he is and how much he hurt you.

~healing hugs~