Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Through my years of marriage, I invested all my energy in my kids and my ex wife who just happened to be my best friend as well. I never had contingency plan as I truly believed we will be there for each other through the thick and thin, but was I dead wrong.
I kept others at a fair distance because I was contempt with what I thought I had. Yes I kept the same friends I had since my teens even when most of us relocated to diffrent States but kept in touch regularly. Besides that, except for acquintance I kept to myself.
As I navigate through separation and accept it for what it is, it finally hit me hard that I am all alone. It sad but the glaring truth hit me as my kids are to be with their mom this week for the first time. I never felt this empty and deeply hurt. All the progress I made coping with a divorce opened up another wound. I put all that I am and what I have into one person and as that person chose another path I am left all alone.
If I give any advise to newly weds madly in love, I will tell them not to put all thier soul in one love basket like I did. Love may not last for all, and limiting yourself like I did is a deservice to you as a being.
The loneliness can be very troublesome indeed! I have very few single friends. The ones that are married or long term friends were all made with stbx and in his military circles.
I would like to just talk to someone over a cup of coffee. my advice to anyone is don't put all your eggs in one basket and expect them to always be there.
When I wasn't at work I was home with my ex and the kids. Why, because that's where I wanted to be. They were my future and I didn't need friends to hang out with alone. I had plenty of friends, but they were friends of us as a couple.
When I said til death do us part I meant it (and I thought she did as well)
Each milestone I achieved coping with my divorce, later opens another wound - self reflection is brutal as it highlights all the red flags that I missed
I understand starting over aftet 18 years of marriage was not going to be a cake walk, but the accompanying wave of sadness that fuels my self deprecation can be draining.