Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
it's been a month since my husband left me. I've been in deep shock, sorrow, and hopelessness the first 3 weeks. I could not concentrate. Im very upset since one week. It seems that all my love for him was gone and I was just magnifying his flaws. Have you experienced deep anger (and for how long) in your divorce? My therapist said that it is good for me and that I was very fast in recovering. I also could not understand myself why I do not feel sorrow at all since one week. I feel relieved. I dont really miss him anymore.
being single is so much easier.
Anger is most definitely normal. Everyone experiences it differently though. You might have more anger than me or vice versa....but anger is one of the phases of grief. I found a book very useful (Getting Past Your Breakup - Susan J Elliott) The reading helped me to realize where I am and what I am/was feeling is normal, but in addition there are exercises in the book (especially in combination with therapy) that help you move through the various phases this also helps you understand WHAT it is your going through. This alone helped me in dealing. In brief: I found out in January that my wife of 9 years was having an affair and at this point first realized that she had for sometime been checked out of out marriage and this after me having moved to Germany to facilitate our marriage and our lives.
So...allow yourself to feel the anger...it will be replaced at various times with a whole host of other emotions that you will aslo cycle through.
In addition know that you are not alone....