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ranger7722000 07/12/2011

So I go in a bad traffic accident and I'm in the hospital. I'm ok they are just making sure I have no internal bleeding...which they are somewhat worried about.

The ex's parents called me and I told them what happened. The ex's mother then told her my condition and she texted / called me this morning. I was getting treated so couldn't answer.

She broke up with me and I really don't want her sympathy at this point. I'm pretty much getting over her.

My question...text her back? call her? or just tell her mom to tell the ex I'm OK?

SwordDancer 07/12/2011

you spoke to her mother, that's all the info she needs.

patti22 07/12/2011

If you hadn't told her parents about the accident, I'd say don't say anything.

But you did tell them, so think that her simple text was appropriate.

And that it would be appropriate for you to give a quick simple text, email, or voicemail back that you're now fine.

deleted_user 07/12/2011

I agree if you told her Mom then she will get the message - no need to go beyond that - hope you are feeling better

patti22 07/12/2011

Oh and I'm glad that you're not hurt!

deleted_user 07/12/2011

I say a quick text back "I'm fine" and leave it at that.

ChiTownBear 07/12/2011

if you dont text her back, you are sending her a message that you don't want to hear from her and don't care for her sympathy. If you do text her back, it could open a doot you may not want to, or that will lead you to getting hurt again.

I am not sure what her text said, but a simple "Im fine" or whatever is the polite thing to do, as long as you can handle any convo after that and can not let it hurt you again.

deleted_user 07/13/2011

This is one of those catch 22 moments. If you text her, will this open that wound and if you don't will it cause animosity. I would go with a very simple, "thank your for asking, I am fine" text back. Kind of covers both areas that way.

Speedy recovery

deleted_user 07/13/2011

I'm figuring out that any contact sends a message and in my case, my stbx, always makes it mean what he needs it to mean which is never what I meant. He sees it as an opportunity.

I always ask myself what my goal or agenda is.

If you truly don't want her sympathy and are moving on then I vote you tell her mom to tell her your fine.

Heal fast.

D

KRKing911 07/13/2011

You don't need to answer her at all. Just leave it alone if you like. I hope you are OK and that your recovery is a quick one.

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