Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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brrriiiaaa 04/16/2017

how can I focus on myself while I'm a new relationship? I really love him but I just need help with focusing on myself a bit more without breaking up with him or taking a break. I currently been out of my old relationship for 5 months and been in this new relationship for a month in a half. No negativity (: thank you

stardust7 04/17/2017

In a way you've already answered your own question. To focus best on yourself and to heal best from a past relationship you need a proper amount of time to "find yourself" again. Not just to be able to go through the motions of a normal day without falling apart but to actually build on your own likes-things like hobbies, getting out with your own friends again, going back to the gym or hanging out again with your family like you used to before your past relationship...stuff like that. You need to build your own life first and feel like bringing a partner into it is only adding to what you've been building/recreating while healing.

Honestly a 1,5 months is too soon to be labeling a relationship with "love." You're moving too fast on top of maybe not being totally healed from the last. Really I'm not trying to be negative but just trying to explain what others have seen over and over again. You have to be totally happy with your own world first before you'll be in any good shape to be in a healthy new relationship. I hope this helps.

brrriiiaaa 04/18/2017

So should I just slow things down ? Not completely backing away but take some time getting to know each other more ?

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