Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I find myself in the stage where, OK, I know it's over, and he is never coming back. I get it... What bothers me, is that he acts like all is forgiving. Like... OK.. Didn't work out, 18 years later. But Hey we can be friends... Sorry but I can't just be friends with someone that I love. But to him... Hey all good. We have to co-parent so it hard to keep the no- contact between us. I have set the boundaries, and he is respecting them. But he is constantly trying to connect at some point through the kids. It is like a open wound that never heals. I am giving him what he wants, yet he still wants a connection with me.
Whether or not you want to give him that is your business. I personally think you don't owe it to him and can co-parent successfully without being a doormat and maintaining that the way you were treated is not okay.
However, remember that forgiveness is not for him...it's for you. You don't have to declare him forgiven at any point...forgiveness should be about you letting go. When you're ready.
Keep those boundaries. Keep it simple. Hang in there.