I feel the best way to address any comment on here is think. Is this the way I would want to be talked too? You bring up a valid point and thanks for that.

This is a dating site. Right.

What people have to remember is that the other person is not in front of you so you can not see how much they are hurting. If they were reactions would be different. Also you are dealing with people who you would never meet or might not be friends with in real life. ( besides the meetups ) If I dont want to comment I dont If I think something is fishy with what you are saying I will call you on that.

There's no place for name calling....EVER.

But hey, that's just me. I keep feeling like I'm in the minority.

I always try to practice the Golden Rule... Treat others the way you would like to be treated.

DS set up these forums kind of like the wild west: one big free for all. overall, i think that we here in this forum conduct ourselves fairly well, interact well, and are supportive to those who post and really need input.

just as in real life, we tend to gravitate to those we most relate to. and, often we don't say the things that will console the best. but, we try and that's all that we can do.

DS has a cancer. Plain and simple. I realize that there has always been tempermental outbursts, clash of titans, tough love, soft approaches, and peace without ripples but, it was a place to be able to get the spoonfull of medicine that was fitting to you.

Nowadays, the boards are full of doubt, someone sending PM's causing more drifts and those who will choose to blinded or is it that is a comfortable place for them to be? Denial of the obvious? *shrugs*....this place is not the same because of one. Sad but, when the wolf has an excellent tailor, he/she will continue to ravage.

I have seen great supporters become so enraged that they became hostile. I have seen newbies become scared. I have seen PM's sent from the said malignancy that shows the vile style. To me, the spirit of this forum has been taken away. But, it is up to each of us to rebuild....to arise from the ashes and stop allowing those that won't own up to expose themselves as they have...

I have been vocal and I've shared my frustration not only to that malignancy openly on the threads but, now, I'm just back to reevaluating things and to continue to pay it forward as my momentum must be taken back....and only I can do that.

*finger to the cancer*

*Looks around... whispers "agree with #6."*

Waits to be banned.

I agree....I am just sad that I have been helped by all the advice...good or bad. I agree it's not the same it was a year ago..not even months ago. *looks around...wanting to ban TD, just for shits and giggles*

I don't talk shit...I don't look down at people...I don't judge anyone. I make my decisions on other people by their actions, always believing the inherent good in people and sometimes get burned later.

Do I act like a moron on occasion? yup. Do I help others here? I like to think so. And, yes, I say FUCK on occasion.

BUT...I said this to someone yesterday...and I stick by my fucking words:

The nonsense around here is getting too much...and way too much of it is "behind the scenes". If EVERYONE got all the shit out in the front, in the threads...this most likely could have been resolved long ago.

I know 2 women from here who reeeeeally went at each other on here for a while, and very harshly...and are now friends...they worked all their shit out with help and input form everyone else here...like a Support GROUP Site is supposed to work.


We're all human...we get a bug in our ass sometimes...we say stupid shit we shouldn't have...but intelligent, good people can act like adults...or they should be able too. Life does not have to be perpetual High School bullshit.

Suspend me, ban me, shove hot pokers up my ass...I'll be done with this place when I say I am...NO ONE puts baby in a corner...

There's women here?

agree with #6 and #9.

L - I think you make a very valid point and even answered your own question...nobody really knows.

I'm not sure if its the stage I'm in in my divorce (limbo) or if its because of people getting banned. I found this site early on extremely helpful and supportive...still supportive for sure, but for me I don't find the support I need. Again, it may just be because I am in limbo and there really isn't much to be said...but chug along...which is what I'm trying to do. But there are certainly times where I come on here and I'm like...yeah....I have nothing to offer nor am I getting anything. I'm not saying I'm at the point that I think I need to move on...essentially I'm still in the early stages of my divorce and I know there is still good advice that I can be given...but right now at this juncture...yeah I've got nothing...which goes to your point everyone is at different stages...so who knows what to say to people.

Is it wrong that Mark made me tingly?

IS. IT. WRONG.

*catches Mark on the air as her knees buckle* I guess I am at the point in my divorce where I am looking for others at that same point. No I am not that bawling piece on the floor like I was when I found out again. I do, however, have bad moments, days or whatever especially when I see the nuclear families around me doing what I feel I should be doing, while I struggle to make sure I haven't lost one kid or another by looking away when we are out having fun. I know I will have bad days but during those is when I look for support of some kind, sad as that may sound. I think we all do at some time during this, even if some may not agree with me.

@ FD... we've all got those moments...I'm learning to channel that shit into more helping the noobs...even when I don't feel like I can...I make myself


@ L...you've got a support system here, and other places, we're always gonna be there for ya


@ Mamacita...put up or shut up....where's them knockers? LMAO