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Something occurred to me while falling to sleep last night. It's totally obvious and has probably been mentioned here before, but I think it merits repeating.
Much of the discussion here revolves around ways to help us to refocus and reshape the way we perceive ourselves, our relationships and the world we live in. In effect we are attempting to reshape and rewire our neural pathways and thought processes.
A bodybuilder, through weight training, creates microtears in the muscles fibers. This occurs most efficiently when the muscles are pushed to failure. I'm sure you've heard the saying: "No Pain, No Gain". Another important concept is progressive overload. That is, the body adjusts and total load, either more weight or more reps, must be increased. Constantly. At some point even this is not enough to keep gains going, and they hit a plateau. To break through a plateau might mean backing off total load, or changing the routine for a short time, throwing something different at the body.
It's a slow, incremental process that must be adhered to. It requires discipline, desire and commitment. It's ongoing and if discontinued the muscles will atropy, eventually losing much of the gains. It also requires proper nutrition and quality rest. It's not easy!!!
The same principals apply to any self-help or self-improvement technique I can think of.
Much of the discussion here revolves around ways to help us to refocus and reshape the way we perceive ourselves, our relationships and the world we live in. In effect we are attempting to reshape and rewire our neural pathways and thought processes.
A bodybuilder, through weight training, creates microtears in the muscles fibers. This occurs most efficiently when the muscles are pushed to failure. I'm sure you've heard the saying: "No Pain, No Gain". Another important concept is progressive overload. That is, the body adjusts and total load, either more weight or more reps, must be increased. Constantly. At some point even this is not enough to keep gains going, and they hit a plateau. To break through a plateau might mean backing off total load, or changing the routine for a short time, throwing something different at the body.
It's a slow, incremental process that must be adhered to. It requires discipline, desire and commitment. It's ongoing and if discontinued the muscles will atropy, eventually losing much of the gains. It also requires proper nutrition and quality rest. It's not easy!!!
The same principals apply to any self-help or self-improvement technique I can think of.
:-)
it reminds me of that quotation, don't remember who said it
"you must do the thing you think you cannot do"
and what my trainer says to me when I'm complaining about things hurting "aww.................do it some more"
heh
Luke's X-Wing is mired in the swamp, and after a prescient episode where he sees his friends in danger, decides to discontinue his training and head off to help them, against Yoda's advice.
Anyway, he attempts to use The Force to raise his craft out of the swamp, but fails miserably. He complains to Yoday that it's too big, too heavy. Yoda dismisses that notion and proceeds to raise the ship out of the swamp.
Luke is astonished and voclaizes that by saying he can't believe it. Yoda informs him that's why he failed...
;-)
Is it the same with adjusting/reparing our thought processes?
The analogy makes sense to me. We can't force the healing or growth. It will happen at its own time.