Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Usually when I drop off the kids on a visit with their father we rarely speak. I seem to do quite fine with the attitude, "Can't stand his f*ckin' gutz!"
Today however we talked and he even made me laugh. He called a little later to check to make sure my car had made it. It felt just like "old times"
So,why do I feel like I have just been punched in the guts?
My husband lives with his mistress and their kids they had from their affair. My daughter told me today that her father's mistress has really preety, fancy clothes, and their "awesome". I happen to be a blue jeans kinda gal.
Why is it that when we are getting along I feellike I have been punched in the guts? When we don't speak and their is some anomosity between the two of us, I do just fine. I hate feeling this way. He broke my heart. They destroyed our family, and they go on as if they've done nothing wrong.
I feel sick.
Today however we talked and he even made me laugh. He called a little later to check to make sure my car had made it. It felt just like "old times"
So,why do I feel like I have just been punched in the guts?
My husband lives with his mistress and their kids they had from their affair. My daughter told me today that her father's mistress has really preety, fancy clothes, and their "awesome". I happen to be a blue jeans kinda gal.
Why is it that when we are getting along I feellike I have been punched in the guts? When we don't speak and their is some anomosity between the two of us, I do just fine. I hate feeling this way. He broke my heart. They destroyed our family, and they go on as if they've done nothing wrong.
I feel sick.
Grieve the marriage not the man.....
Hugs to you I hope you feel better soon hun!
It's also very confusing and painful.
Being angry at them reminds us why we're not with them.
Hugs!
It is now morning and i am feeling depressed. Great, that's all I need is to start trippin' over his black @ss.
Thanks for all the replies,cuz i sure did need to know that I am not alone or suddenly loosing my mind.
I'll be glad to be right back on track. I will go back to little to no interaction with my stbx. It was Better and Safer that way.
Grieve the marriage, not the man.
I still have to get through the final stages of sellin gour house and settling the joint money issues, but after that and other than that, I am going to try really hard to follow the no-contact rules.
It just hurts too damn bad.
Hugs to you and try getting some protein into you to offset the carb overload, I always find that helps.
Eggs can be a beautiful thing!
it's a long hard road. eventually look for things to be grateful for. but perhaps, not today.
Take care of yourself, connect with others, fight the teeth-baring wolf of pain away and bar the door from it as often as you can.
audio books help me. find music that is not too dark, that comforts you. connection to others.
Perhaps someone can help with the drop offs. No big deal, but until a little more dust settles, why force yourself to walk the coals every single time? Grandparents on both ends help in my situation, and it has also taken the being exactly on time element out of the equation, which is another nice benefit. I do it sometimes, but if you have someone who will help, why not? You can also use school as a pickup/drop-off.
I *promise* it will get easier. It will. it will feel like a thousand years away, but it's not.
I was punched in the gut again yesterday. it hurts, i can't find a way to brace for the punch, but at least now I know: i will eventually recover. with you, rooting for you~~~
I feel better today. My emotions are like a roller coaster somedays. This is so hard. I hate divorce.