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Stbx wants primary custody of the kids. She wants the kids to stay wih her alot. She uses the kids time as a commodity. We have a parenting plan in place. I have the kids twice a week and every other weekend. Which is fine with me. I wish I have them more. This is the first weekend she has them since mother's day weekend. I talk to kids every nite and asked them what they did and what they are doing. I don't ask about her. I just talked to them, the oldest was tired because she was out all weekend for a youth religious function. The boys told me they didn't do anything. She went out last nite and she is out again tonight. The youngest is just watching tv or playing video games. He has been doing that all day.
If she agrues with me that I annoy her for asking to spend more time with them. I asked that if she is not around that they can be with me. She says, it is her time with kids and she can spend it however she wants.
Kids are alone most of the time. They are 16, 14 and 10.
If she agrues with me that I annoy her for asking to spend more time with them. I asked that if she is not around that they can be with me. She says, it is her time with kids and she can spend it however she wants.
Kids are alone most of the time. They are 16, 14 and 10.
But as you have this plan in place, she is correct. Wintertime with the kids, you have no input and no influence.
Stupid Siri doesn't listen.
Thanks
idk if this will help you or not. i am new to the whole divorce thing. but i remembered coming across something in my research called "the right of first refusal." it is a clause you can have put into your divorce/custody agreement. i have no clue if it applies to your situation or not, but maybe you could research it if it is of any interest to you. explanation taken from:
http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/visitation/f/rightoffirstrefusal.htm
"Basically, right of first refusal means that before a parent can use the services of a daycare, sitter or relative they must give the other parent the option to be with the child. If your ex is not going to be with your child, you want the opportunity to spend that time with the child."
like i said, idk if this would apply or work for you, but i had to share just in case. big hugs to you!
Don't ask or tell her as it appears she will only interfere because you said something. Its unfortunate that she is not really thinking of what would be good for the kids.