awww.. cute profile pic - that is a sweet face. :)

when do you want it to stop sucking? what are you doing in your life to redesign it so it is suck-free? :)

its hard - this whole shifting process - go easy on yourself. you arent going thru it alone. xoxo

It is even hard for me to say this, but I have to repeat what IloveRufus has said.....when do you want it to stop sucking?

It is just beyond a year and I still feel the pain and the heartache, but I have to do the work, I have to make the choice to change my way of thinking, to change my life, to make my life better. It isn't easy that is for sure...it is so hard actually....but it has to be me......

You are not alone, there are so many people here who know how you feel, who share in your heartache and pain......so I again, must agree.....go easy on yourself.....take the time to grieve......((hugs))

I must say that profile pic is sooo cute. Reminds me of my black pug. :-)

I am feeling the same as you, I left him a week and a half ago. I miss him every day. I know it was the right decision but it SUCKS. I think about the other girls he must be talking to now n it's driving me MADDD! I have such weak moments where I contact him and I am trying to be strong but it's so damn hard! I'm with you..if you need someone to talk to.

it's a process

keep going

you'll get there

I asked my mom the same question yesterday. She said in a couple of years I'll be ready to start dating again. That seems like forever. But I've been broken up with for about five minutes so everything seems like forever right now. And I'm sure life won't take a couple of years to stop sucking. But I'm told it takes a while because we have to go through all these stages of grieving and hurting and wanting to set things on fire and stand in our yards screaming at the top of our lungs. Yet even in these days where everything hurts and seems to suck, there are little moments that don't, if you look hard enough for them. My cat lays in my lap and purrs and sucks his thumb. Its comforting and familiar and makes me smile. I have to hold on to that, as tiny as it is, because it is a reminder that life doesn't always suck. And someday things will be better all of the time.

Thank you, everyone, for your thoughtful responses!
RLC6128, Sadie is part pug :) I love pugs!

I'm sorry about everyone's pain but comforted by not being alone.
It's been almost 2 years. Last yr. I survived breast cancer and that doesn't suck! But I'm lonely now for a partner and at 47, I feel like I don't know where to find someone and don't know if I ever will.
I have a busy life and my I hate that i have to see my x at times, because of the kids. It reopens the wound although i believe someday it will be much easier. iloverufus- I do try to make my life suck free but probably could try harder.
wrytergrrrl, you are in a very sucky place right now. I remember getting tremendous comfort from snuggling my cat at night when it was all first happening. I love you humor!
Rachelle and JoyRide, thanks so much for the encouragement!

I don't know what I'd do if i couldn't come here and vent!
((Cherie))