Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I just joined this group and am thankful to be here. I have read many posts and feel I could get help here and perhaps help others too.
I have been in a relationship for the past 8 years. The first 3 were outstanding and near perfect. However, several things happened in the 3rd year that challenged us. My Mom passed away, I had to move (although I moved closer to her and to be by her), she changed jobs, and things just started to feel different. the next 2 years were a little better, yet little things kept coming up. That same year, I proposed to her, but right after that is when things started to surface; which put this off. We were both okay with it. She asked me in 2012 if I wanted to breakup. I told her I did not. 2013 was better, but during 2014 and 2015 we've just really been friends and very little more. I am okay with it for now. We keep getting in discussions of how she wants to breakup and is done and how I want to keep trying.
Also, a few weeks ago, she had an alarm installed in her house (which I have a key to and she has a key to my place) and she has not given me the password. She says it is because she is travelling a lot to her daughter's to see her grandson, but I think it is possible that she doesn't want me going in her house when she is not there; which I was doing all the time until about a few months ago and she was perfectly fine with.
Well, I did not get an invitation from her to her family's house for Thanksgiving for the first time since I have known her. I was not surprised, but still hopeful.
Today she wanted to bring some things over from her house to me, but I just could not accept it. I took this as the her starting to give things back to me and I asked her if I had to get things out of her house. I told her my place is a mess and I have a storage issue and asked her if this could please wait. I am not up to this now and a lot has happened this year.
I am sorry this is so long and thank you for reading.
Any advice is welcome.
I have been in a relationship for the past 8 years. The first 3 were outstanding and near perfect. However, several things happened in the 3rd year that challenged us. My Mom passed away, I had to move (although I moved closer to her and to be by her), she changed jobs, and things just started to feel different. the next 2 years were a little better, yet little things kept coming up. That same year, I proposed to her, but right after that is when things started to surface; which put this off. We were both okay with it. She asked me in 2012 if I wanted to breakup. I told her I did not. 2013 was better, but during 2014 and 2015 we've just really been friends and very little more. I am okay with it for now. We keep getting in discussions of how she wants to breakup and is done and how I want to keep trying.
Also, a few weeks ago, she had an alarm installed in her house (which I have a key to and she has a key to my place) and she has not given me the password. She says it is because she is travelling a lot to her daughter's to see her grandson, but I think it is possible that she doesn't want me going in her house when she is not there; which I was doing all the time until about a few months ago and she was perfectly fine with.
Well, I did not get an invitation from her to her family's house for Thanksgiving for the first time since I have known her. I was not surprised, but still hopeful.
Today she wanted to bring some things over from her house to me, but I just could not accept it. I took this as the her starting to give things back to me and I asked her if I had to get things out of her house. I told her my place is a mess and I have a storage issue and asked her if this could please wait. I am not up to this now and a lot has happened this year.
I am sorry this is so long and thank you for reading.
Any advice is welcome.
It will get very painful....but use all the resources you can to get through this
and come here for support too....as you know, lots of solid advice to follow
I know it is excruciating when you have no say & I'm sorry you are going through this. People around me keep telling me that eventually things will be better, I know that is cold comfort now, but please try to look after yourself..