Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
i WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP for 17 years my husband was a very verbally abusive man and had serious sexual problems!! years into the marriage he became very flirtatious with other woman especially my sister in law! One day I just could not take the abuse any more to find out he was having an affair with my brothers wife! I was sick my brother had 3 young kids with her and now 2 families have broken! I ended the marriage and moved on and found a very wonderful loving kind husband! A year ago my ex and my ex sister in law are now married,and my brothers kids now partly live with there once uncle now step dad! The kids did not like there new step dad and have recently moved in with my brother! I do not know how to let this go I struggle everyday not to think of these 2 and what they have done to me my daughter and my family! it has been 10 years and my anxiety is bad! I feel so sick that I let him control me when I was with him and he is still somewhat controlling me now!! I pray everyday for me to let go of the anger and pain! And it kills me inside for his family that was once mine is now hers please someone help me I cant take it anymore
This is easy for me to say because I haven't accepted (nor do I know 100% for sure, but I'm 90% sure) that my H has someone else, but find somewhere else to put your mind.
Can you try to keep putting your focus back on yourself & what you want for your own life? Personally, I feel my goals & dreams are stomped to death, so I am literally focusing on each small task before me. Shower, eat, pay my bills, figure out how to organize my receipts, go to the dr...& around that I am also trying to make myself socialize some, make new friends, give myself a bit of space (I'm failing at that part) to figure out who I am.
These abusers have taken up so much of our lives. We can't really know what they are about, & ultimately it doesn't even matter. What matters is that we find a way to meaning in our own lives. I doubt, many times a day, that this is possible for me, but at least once a day there is also a glimmer of hope...I'm hanging on to that for dear life.
Can you find more things that are just for you? Every time you think of him change your focus?