Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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Yesterday I was in Wal-Mart at the end of an aisle looking for something when I felt someone nudge me with a cart. It was my ex-bf. I was really caught off guard. This was the first time I'd seen him in almost 4 months and the first time I'd spoken to him in about 3 months. The last time I spoke to him I told him that he made it very clear he doesn't want me in his life so maybe he could stop contacting me and he did.
He was clearly very happy to see me. He looked me up and down and said "You look really good, Honey." I thanked him instead of saying what I wanted to which would not have been very gracious. We made some small talk about how our kids are, he told me about his new granddaughter and showed me her pictures.
I couldn't even think. I'm sure he could see the pain in my eyes because the longer he talked to me, the more uncomfortable he seemed. Either that or he thinks I hate him which I don't. It might be easier if I did.
I ended up leaving the store without what I came for because A. it was all I could do not to break down sobbing and B. I couldn't even think.
I cried on and off the rest of the day. Today I'm feeling extremely anxious an shaking, much like I did the first 5 weeks after he left. The timing was awful, I've really been missing him and feeling the loss lately so it was like rubbing salt in the wound.
Anyone else experience this and if so, how did you cope?
He was clearly very happy to see me. He looked me up and down and said "You look really good, Honey." I thanked him instead of saying what I wanted to which would not have been very gracious. We made some small talk about how our kids are, he told me about his new granddaughter and showed me her pictures.
I couldn't even think. I'm sure he could see the pain in my eyes because the longer he talked to me, the more uncomfortable he seemed. Either that or he thinks I hate him which I don't. It might be easier if I did.
I ended up leaving the store without what I came for because A. it was all I could do not to break down sobbing and B. I couldn't even think.
I cried on and off the rest of the day. Today I'm feeling extremely anxious an shaking, much like I did the first 5 weeks after he left. The timing was awful, I've really been missing him and feeling the loss lately so it was like rubbing salt in the wound.
Anyone else experience this and if so, how did you cope?
I don't hate my ex either, I would take him back if he wanted, but he doesn't so I am left with a broken heart. The best thing we can do is stay no contact, it's hard. I fight that urge every single day and it's been 9 months since he left me.
You handled it well.
Sending healing hugs!