It takes a long time.

I had a short, very difficult marriage and it took a couple years to be able to move on.

Then I had another partnership of less than four years and again it took a couple years to adjust.

Just three months ago, I had an incident with a lifelong dear friend who is currently not speaking to me and has cut off contact. He has left the door open to possibly resume the friendship a long time in the future, but there are no guarantees. (I wish this site had a "friend breakup" category! It's just as hard as my romantic relationship breakups--probably harder.) Three months in, I've lost 25 pounds, suffer insomnia, and can't focus at work. I've seen my therapist a half-dozen times, I've talked to friends for hours, and I've written a very long creative writing piece about my feelings, all of which have been helpful, but doesn't fix it. This morning I went to the doctor and got a prescription for a psych med to help me sleep.

It's so hard to let go because the particular person you love is irreplaceable. No one else is exactly like them. No one else can duplicate your history with them. Even if you find kind and understanding friends, and even if you can offer your love to others, it won't be the same as what you had.

It is important to go through the grief and feel the grief. It is real.

I understand where you are emotionally, I am there also, so we're not really alone. I hope you find some peace soon!

It's so tough to get over things, I feel your pain, it's been almost 7 months since my breakup and sometimes it feels like it's getting harder or I'm not making any progress. I hope you feel better and somehow things work out for you.

Two months ago my husband dropped the bomb on me that he was done , mind you we have a 13 year old boy , he didn't care, he broke my heart, he didn't care, now, what I find helps me through is the anger I have and the sheer grit to get through this, she is not worth your tears if she did up and leave you , giving up on a marriage is a big decision , something that the party who leaves thinks about a long time without your knowledge most of the time before they ever say anything. I don't know your situation but , if she doesn't want to work it out yes you will grieve the relationship , be patient with yourself but understand , you did your best and she failed you . In time you will gain strength . Hang in there.

It is so very hard to get through the first 6-8 months - a real roller coaster. I could have written your post. But here I am gotten through the worst of it. It will get better. You need to keep tellng yourself that.

i know your pain all too well.

See a therapsist...join a group.....get connected with people

Meetup.com maybe?

After a time I met someone and we are in a very loving relationship

you are ill right now and need to treat yourself according
Gentle...patient and lean on people