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This was the saddest Easter I think I have ever had. First of all, the weather here was rainy, overcast and gloomy.
Because of the state of depression I am in ( parly because I lost 2 people I love very much this month; 1 to cancer, the other to suicide), I felt like doing nothing. I DID make myself make my wonderful Black Labrador Retriever and I Easter baskets. Hers has dog treats, mine has candy! :-)
I did not feel like getting out of bed. I did though and took a ride to the dog park. On the way there, I could not help but drive past my ex's house. Well, just as we were approaching her house, she was pulling up from being at her Mom's (where I would go with her for the last 8 years until this year).
I stopped and wished her Happy Easter, but we did not get out of the truck. She seemed to want to talk about us. I started it, telling her how much I miss her and how it feels so strange without her in my daily life.
It continued with us talking about why we broke up and how I hope this is just a much needed timeout. She kept talking about "deal breakers" (such as my dog shedding, my hair growing and not cutting it and a few other things). Then she kept saying she felt like she was not a priority for the last 2 years of our relationship. And that I love my dog more than her.
I told her that is a different kind of love and I can love her and my dog equally. My dog was excited to see her and hear her dog barking inside and was all excited and making crying noises because she was so happy and was hoping to go inside. She did not acknowledge my dog once and did not pet her once. I almost asked her to, but did not.
I am sorry this is so long.
It just was a very sad Easter and the first one I spent without her in 8 years. My parents are gone and my siblings all live away. I have one aunt left here and I spoke with her later.
It's very different without her in my life doing things we used to do and knowing she is doing them without me.
I am open to any thoughts or ideas.
Thank you for reading.
Because of the state of depression I am in ( parly because I lost 2 people I love very much this month; 1 to cancer, the other to suicide), I felt like doing nothing. I DID make myself make my wonderful Black Labrador Retriever and I Easter baskets. Hers has dog treats, mine has candy! :-)
I did not feel like getting out of bed. I did though and took a ride to the dog park. On the way there, I could not help but drive past my ex's house. Well, just as we were approaching her house, she was pulling up from being at her Mom's (where I would go with her for the last 8 years until this year).
I stopped and wished her Happy Easter, but we did not get out of the truck. She seemed to want to talk about us. I started it, telling her how much I miss her and how it feels so strange without her in my daily life.
It continued with us talking about why we broke up and how I hope this is just a much needed timeout. She kept talking about "deal breakers" (such as my dog shedding, my hair growing and not cutting it and a few other things). Then she kept saying she felt like she was not a priority for the last 2 years of our relationship. And that I love my dog more than her.
I told her that is a different kind of love and I can love her and my dog equally. My dog was excited to see her and hear her dog barking inside and was all excited and making crying noises because she was so happy and was hoping to go inside. She did not acknowledge my dog once and did not pet her once. I almost asked her to, but did not.
I am sorry this is so long.
It just was a very sad Easter and the first one I spent without her in 8 years. My parents are gone and my siblings all live away. I have one aunt left here and I spoke with her later.
It's very different without her in my life doing things we used to do and knowing she is doing them without me.
I am open to any thoughts or ideas.
Thank you for reading.
It is difficult for us when our routines are interrupted, especially around the holidays. We're just human. I spent Easter with my three dogs as well (they didn't get Easter baskets, though~ good man!).
I get that some people just aren't "pet people". I just never been involved with one because it wouldn't work for me.
The man I just broke up with had a toy poodle that got him through his divorce and the death of his mom and son. He loves that dog! I didn't find that a threat, but rather a very endearing quality that he could love this dog so much.
Living with someone else who doesn't share your values is hell.
Personally I rather be alone than sleeping with the enemy.
Maybe a break is healthy right now because you love that dog and do you really think someone loves you if they don't accept a part of you that obviously means so much?
In any case, you sound like a wonderful person, and though we all go through those lonely times, I know the light will find you and this will pass.
So, Im' sorry, I call bullshit on what she is saying. I am SURE that those things annoy her and some things she does may annoy you. But deal breakers are if she is allergic to the dog and cant breathe or be around you or the dog cus she will die. Or you are a werewolf and cant cut or get rid of your long hair. Or you are a cheater, serial killer or a Green Bay packer fan. (Ok thats my deal breaker, kidding)
I don't discredit your hurt my friend, so I am sorry you are feeling how you are. I am just trying to keep it real. I am sure if you weren't just trying to appease her so to get her back, you may see there has to be larger issues then just the dog and your hair.
What I do hope is that if you continue to run in to her that you two cna continue to talk. Maybe someday get to the real issue and clear it up so to move on. Whether that is together or apart.
ps. I'm glad you still did Easter with the dog. I am sure it helped a little. It did for me.