We frequently state on this board that you should not look at the other person's Facebook and that doing so can be painful and hurtful and it is the consequences you pay for doing it.

Again, STOP LOOKING AT FACEBOOK. People on Facebook don't post the worst times they have, they don't post that they have the worst girlfriends or their life is in the toilet. They post everything is rosy and wonderful and they are living high on life even though they are not. Facebook is not about truth.

Our others do it because they figure their girlfriends/boyfriends or spouses will look and it rubs it in even more that they are doing JUST SO GREAT. So you fell right in the trap--don't do it again.

Facebook sucks....delete your account!!!!!!

Block him, mine used to come up in the list of People you might know, should be a list called people who should be breathing soil.. anyhow i used to look and see the pix and get mad, but its my fault for soing it not Fb so i disagree that is sucks, if you have little self restraint, find him, block him. be done with it

I blocked my stbx because of the fact that she was posting relationship crap about her and her new bf, and yes, we are still married and living together although not for long. I don't go on fb all that much but when I do, it is to check in on family and friends I have who live out of state. I enjoy the time I spend doing that but checking up on her is something I will not do anymore and is much easier because I blocked her.
Basically, if you don't want to see something, don't look for it.

I blocked my Stbx and any of "his" friends. Also changed privacy settings so not just anyone can see my posts or pictures. Don't put yourself in more pain. It's not worth it.

I know I can't look but why is it that he never put us up there but he puther :(

You're not going to get that answer from him. Listen to us here and help yourself and stay off Facebook, because we can't do it for you and you have to help yourself.

It should be enough for you to have seen it all once and realize that he has moved on. He won't answer why, so you have to stop asking the same question so you don't get stuck there.

I'm in the block category. I blocked him, her and everyone that was associated with him. It's too unhealthy to be looking. It doesn't hurt him, only you.

I agree, I, reactivated my FB a couple of weeks ago, and got rid of pics of him and I, and of course it bought up memories and etc. I have not been back on. Not ready for that yet. I do not think my ex is on, if he is, he changed his name and or deleted me. Whichever is fine.

I don't know if my ex is on FB but just in case I have blocked every mail address I know of. Plus the two I know his new wife has. My privacy settings are as tight as FB allows. I only have 20 friends from DS and another site I used to be on.

You don't need to know the answer to the ? you are asking. You are only hurting yourself by continuing to look for him on FB. It's over and time to work on yourself and move forward.

I agree, stay away from 'facebook drama'. THe only healing will come from you, not him, facebook or anything like that. Resist the urge in the short term and it will pay off in the long term. Its hard I know but harder to reopen wounds.

don't do that. I blocked him and all his friends and his family and the GF so i could not go there. Nothing good ever comes from it...Don't go there. You don't have to delete your account or blame face book,etc. I enjoy FB and have met some cool people.The ony way I have of keeping touch with some of my best friends is on FB. You do have to fix it so you can't see what he or anyone connected with him is doing.

you will not get the answer to your question. I bought a fixer upper house with mine several years ago based on his promise to do the work. Why did he wait until I moved out to start doing all the work to get it ready for my replacement before she moves here? There are questions in life for which we never get answers. Best to just let them go and move on.