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What should i do

vmarshall
vmarshall
The guy that i was seeing texts me Tues night out of the blue wanting me to drive to his work (45 min) away. He said that he thought that we would talk and he had something to say to me. I asked him why he couldnt say it right then and he said "never mind, it can wait". I HATE those kind of mind games. I told him that if it was something bad, I didn't want to know.
If he was mad at me, you'd think that he'd just come out and say it. Why would he want to see me face to face for a confrontation? He broke it off via text to I figured he'd chew me out via text. I'm trying to tell myself that what he had to say was nothing good anyway. I left my phone on all night in case he wanted to call but he didn't. Haven't heard a word since that night. I'm trying not to worry about it or get my hopes up that he wants to see me again.
What should I do?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm not sure what you are asking. If he's broken it off with you, there really isn't anything you can do.
nellaafrica
nellaafrica
sounds like a total asshole like a guy i been seing, they so bloody suck, u deserve better tell him to take a ride, so not good, the guy i was seing was like that, one min clinggy one min gone, hello who the hell they think we are? they so playing games and man we get hurt not on, am so not taking him back and if i was u i wouldn't either sounds like his a player.
flutterbyfly
flutterbyfly
I would just let it go. If he has anything to say to you or wants to talk, he will text/call you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am always a believer that saying what is on your mind is better than ignoring it and leaving it. If his response is negative, well, at least you know and maybe you can grow from it. Sometimes that is better than the question mark over the head. I would, however, be wary of someone who seems to be so random in his communications.
I would probably send him a text letting him know that his message has left you wondering. Ask him outright to explain to you why he contacted you and tell him you cannot guess what he may be thinking, but you are willing to discuss what is on his mind. At least you have offered something, and that is better than just wondering. Try to open lines of communication without judgement. Be open to discuss matters and then perhaps he will feel more allowed to say what he wanted to say. Then you can make an informed decision, in response to a proper conversation, rather than just wondering.