Forgot to post the link duh!

http://www.marcandangel.com/2013/05/07/6-ways-you-are-your-own-worst-enemy/

Great read...thanks for posting it.

Copied, pasted, printed and stuck on the fridge! :)

Extremely insightful thank you!

Does laying in a puddle make me my own worst enemy? ;)

puddle of what?

:)

#5
resistance to vulnerability

was my go-to place for years

until this year

yay ~~~~~

Thanks for the link. That whole blog looks like some place I am going to spend some time.

I have lived most of my 64 years out of my comfort zone. When I was fishing my own boat on the gulf of Alaska, dodging breakers, I was REALLY out of my comfort zone. Now I do like being in a comfort zone. I have earned it.

The blog I really like is;
http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/10/02/things-to-stop-caring-about-today/

Thank you TML67, this is an interesting site.

Heh. On the link, the guy is laying in a puddle of... I'm gonna say water.

I never resisted vulnerability, been exposed, knew it, and knew the potential liabilities/benefits of such exposure. It didn't make it any easier to go through the second time, other than the fact that I knew it was a process, and I knew it would end.

I think some of us, if not most of us, also have what I call a "self-destruct" button. There something in our brain that for whatever doesn't want us to succeed. When we are on the right track, we push that button and make a bad decision that we know from the start is bad.

i NEEDED to resist vulnerability, for a long time, or i would have still been in pain

the cocooning for me was necessary

to get *here*

(big smiles)

when vulnerability, trust and intimacy are delicious again

as i have talked with people going through breakups over the years, it wasn't the heartbreak and vulnerability that brought them to their knees, it was financial ruin by betraying spouses.

with money, we can rebuild. without it, we are screwed.

Have to agree with you, Verne. That was the biggest thing for me. There fear of not being able to makes ends meet almost brought me to my knees. Lucky for me, things are working themselves out nicely, and I am very optimistic that I will be OK. Trying to let go and let God, and it actually seems to be working!

wow, this really made my day. My expectations how life should be is my down fall. At this time reading this over and over will help me deal and pass my situation. One thing that out stand for me as well, was happiness goes together with sadness. I always say to my students: you don't know what success is until you have failed. it kind of goes together. My perception. lol Thank you. good stuff.