Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
For the most part I have finally reached being able to listen to music without thinking of him. I am okay with being myself most of the time.
What hurts most for me is looking around my home and knowing soon I will be moving and will never see it again. It's little things that get to me. Things that can be replaced but still yet memories. Like the backsplash in the kitchen that I designed. I broke down crying to my mom on the phone about missing the flowers that I had planted. Stupid I know. I have found myself procrastinating on the move because I hate change.
In my head I think I want to be with someone else. I feel that I can move on past my ex. I want companionship and someone to cook dinner for at night. Someone that I can call on the way home after a rough day at work. The problem is that I hate the new and unfamiliar. The starting over. Dating is so difficult. I would rather sit at home and be by myself than sit through awkward conversations with someone new.
Will I get past this feeling? I don't know...I know some people decide to stay single. I think to myself, who would want me now with a second divorce?
Is this part of the healing process?
What hurts most for me is looking around my home and knowing soon I will be moving and will never see it again. It's little things that get to me. Things that can be replaced but still yet memories. Like the backsplash in the kitchen that I designed. I broke down crying to my mom on the phone about missing the flowers that I had planted. Stupid I know. I have found myself procrastinating on the move because I hate change.
In my head I think I want to be with someone else. I feel that I can move on past my ex. I want companionship and someone to cook dinner for at night. Someone that I can call on the way home after a rough day at work. The problem is that I hate the new and unfamiliar. The starting over. Dating is so difficult. I would rather sit at home and be by myself than sit through awkward conversations with someone new.
Will I get past this feeling? I don't know...I know some people decide to stay single. I think to myself, who would want me now with a second divorce?
Is this part of the healing process?
I'm also very afraid of the unknown and I'm so used to 1 person. I compare everything and miss feeling so comfortable around someone, even though I'm also realizing I wasn't as comfortable as I thought.
You will find someone, I don't think it matters that you've been divorced twice. The right person for you won't judge you for that.
I wish you the best, we can get through it :)
((Hugs))
I am afraid of the future, too as I am not an extrovert. I am quiet and keep to myself. Meeting new people will be very difficult for me as well. But while I am afraid of the future, it is what I make it. For the first time, my youngest son I went to dinner alone, yesterday. I felt bad because we had to take the bus because my STBX took the car when he abandoned us. My son did not care. He was just happy that we were together. This gave me some hope that I will be okay.
It is going to take time. Do not concentrate on the number of times you have been divorced. Instead concentrate on how you can gain control of your life. Get back in touch with yourself. Try to focus on what makes you happy instead of trying to find someone else to make you happy. It is a long, hard road ahead, but we will get there. We will.