Sit down, cry... get up, get on with life. It sucks, not a damn thing we can do about it. Been there!

You do what I did... come here and deal with it, knowing you\'re not alone.

They came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not FOR us.

For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued WITH us.

[1 John 2:19]

This was/is a love like one has never known...... that feeling of connectivity, the feeling like a kid in the candy store and he has a crisp new 100 dollar bill to spend any way he wants...... the giddy feeling at the mention of their name....

Did you communicate this to them?

They knew they have the same feelings, but they walked away.....firghtened maybe, fighting demons of their own maybe....but they loved oo.....

You can\'t make someone feel something they don\'t. You can\'t make decisions for someone either. It hurts like a motherfucker.

You wonder why you were allowed to feel that way to begin with. Well, at least I wonder that.

Well have lived this many times, lemme see if I can put some perspective on it.

Maybe, as STM said, it was not yours to hold on to, but yours in order to get a taste of how it should be. Some relationships aren\'t meant to last, as good, or as bad as they are. Some are meant to be the new bar, and the new standard that we are to look for. As this person was not a life fit, she\'s most definitely tuned you in to what you are looking for. I think it should be cherished, more than mourned.

I would be sad and hurt. But, I would also be thankful that it ended sooner than later. If it is meant to be, then it will be...if not, then it won\'t...Sorry you have to go through this again.

My thought on this is..if it was really true love, they would not be walking away. True love is given as well as received.

I believe that the other has that same feelings but is afraid to commit for reasons out of their control. Past breakup and social customs..upbringing....maybe even religion......

Pem,

I told you to stay away from Moonies!

Thanks for the laugh, tom...very much needed...

Oh I am so sorry to hear this. I have no answers for you, but it makes me hurt for you my friend. Big hugs.

Ouch! Love hurts, sorry (((pem)))... move on for yourself. Just believe that there is someone out there to fall inlove with again. (((M)))