mallory read my journals in my profile - i believe in one last try albeit a lot of work. i need to know i did all i could and considered new perspectives when i felt i didn't know what to do

I read them. I've been trying really hard to make him like me, and now I've decided to not talk to him. I'm hoping he'll miss me.

thats just it, don't work on changing him, work on you first, it gives the best chance for him to see you in a new positive light. by you trying to get him to like you, you have been pursuing him. you need to flip the table so he pursues you. you do that by distancing and becoming the best you. theres a whole bunch of studies which speak to the pursuer/distancer psychology

what would you say are his complaints about you and your relationship? those are the things which if you changed would have the biggest impact - you can message me if you prefer

not that I'm suggesting that you change for him, only change for you to be the best you

the other thing to do, is look for small positive changes in the way he approaches you.

note: if something isn't working, try something different, even with the 180 some items may not work so well in your situation

Sorry to say but he is not worth keeping...just had to get that out first. I think that he is not sure what he really wants. He wants to leave for his new girlfriend but still wants to string you along in case it doesn't work out then he'll come back to you. He may also not want you to date anyone so he'll act like he is interested to string you along. Either way, if he did come back then he will just do it again. It should tell you what type of person he is by leaving you, getting a girl friend in a week then coming to talk to you again? Very strange and not acceptable. Do not settle, life is short and there is another man that would make you so happy. You have just not met him yet.

When he wants to talk to you or text you, tell him sorry it's not a good idea and that you are moving on with your life. It will be tough to do this but again, life is short...very short and you deserve to be happy and be loved by a man who appreciates you. Hope all the best for you, be strong and talk to friends and family for support.

I just have mixed feelings. I know I deserve better, but I'm still very much in love with him. Although he is a jerk now, I still know him as the guy I fell in love with. But if he does try to contact me again I'm not going to be nice like I was this time around. I shouldn't have to go after him.

It sounds like your going through your grieving process. It takes some time to heal. I hear your pain. I've been down that road myself. Allow yourself time to grieve the loss you've experienced. This is a good time to focus on YOU! The less you talk to him or contact him, the more you allow yourself time to grieve and heal. If you do reconcile, both of you will have to change in order for your relationship to change. If you don't change, you end up where you started. It's a process. Be patient with yourself, love yourself, take care of yourself, do nice things for yourself, find things that make you genuinely happy.

For me, I relied on my faith to get me through. Do you have a faith or a belief system that can help you through this? Maybe reach out to a local church for support or perhaps you have a friend that attends a church that you can go with. Create a support system for yourself. You are not alone.

Blessings to you and your husband. I will pray for both of you.

thanks for your response, I don't attend church or anything but I've just been believing in my own hope. Also, I'm not married! I'm a little young for that lol. But nonetheless, I appreciate your response.

Sometime we get in our own way! The great thing about being young is their is someone else out there who wants someone just like you.

I tell my niece's to make a non-negotiations list. The things that are the red flags we see but ignore!!!

So next time you see one put the guy in friend zone!!!

The truth is when someone really wants you, their with you.

Your a pretty girl and time is on your side. Go see the World!!!

I know there's probably someone else out there, but right now, I love him. It's really difficult.