Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
So I'm just venting since I have no one else to vent to..
So It has been 5 days since I decided to not contact my ex fianc anymore. He hasn't reached out. Part of me thinks he never will. It hurts a lot. So many memories haunt me. I went out last night and I was near the place he proposed to me and it just hurts. I went to my brother's fiancee's bridal shower a couple days ago and she put the tiara with veil on my head and it made me a little emotional but held it in. Everywhere I look or go, I see pictures or memories and I just cry a little. I try to not cry all the time but I am crying right now as I'm writing this.
I am trying to look at the positive side but I just don't see one. I was really happy with him and we loved each other soooo much. I have never experienced such love and then he walks away after some problems and says he doesn't love me enough and doesn't want to open up his heart to me again?
He asked me to be his girlfriend in May and my birthday is in May and we had plans to do something before we broke up.
I am just really emotional and it seems like its not getting easier.. I try to keep myself busy.
So It has been 5 days since I decided to not contact my ex fianc anymore. He hasn't reached out. Part of me thinks he never will. It hurts a lot. So many memories haunt me. I went out last night and I was near the place he proposed to me and it just hurts. I went to my brother's fiancee's bridal shower a couple days ago and she put the tiara with veil on my head and it made me a little emotional but held it in. Everywhere I look or go, I see pictures or memories and I just cry a little. I try to not cry all the time but I am crying right now as I'm writing this.
I am trying to look at the positive side but I just don't see one. I was really happy with him and we loved each other soooo much. I have never experienced such love and then he walks away after some problems and says he doesn't love me enough and doesn't want to open up his heart to me again?
He asked me to be his girlfriend in May and my birthday is in May and we had plans to do something before we broke up.
I am just really emotional and it seems like its not getting easier.. I try to keep myself busy.
I remember the first breakup I had after my divorce. I was with the man a year and a half, and I loved him so much. It was such a bad relationship, but that is a story for another day. Anyway, when we brokeup, I literally thought I was going to die. I did not think I could survive it. For 2 months after the breakup he kept contacting me, driving past my house, etc. It was the worst hell I'd ever been through. I straight up thought my world and life were over. WE HAD PLANS! I HAD PLANS WITH HIM! I couldn't eat, sleep, all I did was cry and wait for him to come back to me... He didn't, and I'm better off for it. Eventually the clouds of despair passed, the sunshine came back into my heart and life and I could breathe. I had to block him all over the place and cut my emotions off from loving him. I had to force myself to realize I could be me without him, and be happy. You can do it also, it just takes a lot of time.
Eventually the torture of memories will pass. There are things I miss about him and a piece of my heart still loves him, but I can see the situation for what it was and just how unhealthy and toxic it was for me. You will get there also, just be gentle with yourself, realize there are better days ahead, and focus on you. You will get through this.
once every 3 or 4 weeks I get a hope youre well
hurts more than nothing
Because it shows she doesn't give a hoot
and me 1/12 years after separation
i get nothing and when I used to reach out to him, he used to respond but wasn't enough.
I am heart broken.
so he walked after a rough patch, too bad for him, better for you
we get put through rough patches, either by ourselves or life,
this guy has no grit, better for you that showed you what he lacks now