Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Hi.
I recently had a breakup with my parter - a couple of weeks ago. This was about a week after I learned of my mother's death, and as if it weren't enough, I got a herniated disk that left me somewhat immobile (I'm usually very healthy, strong, and independent). I also care for our 1 year old daughter alone (he's played more the role of a helper vs cohabitating as a family). So, I'm trying to adapt to my losses - of him and my mother at the same time, while recovering physically, as well as caring for our baby, and working from home. The thing that I'm having a hard time with is that he doesn't want to be in the relationship because it's too much of a struggle for him... Yet, I've been raising our baby, and have these recent trying circumstances to deal with. I feel the weight of the world on my shoulders, and yet it's a struggle for him - I don't get that. And I also don't understand how someone can leave someone they love under the circumstances (losing my mother and physical injury). Is it just me or is there something wrong with this picture? He's not a bad person, but I don't get how someone who claims they love you and that you're the most important thing to them can then leave at a time when you need them the most.
I recently had a breakup with my parter - a couple of weeks ago. This was about a week after I learned of my mother's death, and as if it weren't enough, I got a herniated disk that left me somewhat immobile (I'm usually very healthy, strong, and independent). I also care for our 1 year old daughter alone (he's played more the role of a helper vs cohabitating as a family). So, I'm trying to adapt to my losses - of him and my mother at the same time, while recovering physically, as well as caring for our baby, and working from home. The thing that I'm having a hard time with is that he doesn't want to be in the relationship because it's too much of a struggle for him... Yet, I've been raising our baby, and have these recent trying circumstances to deal with. I feel the weight of the world on my shoulders, and yet it's a struggle for him - I don't get that. And I also don't understand how someone can leave someone they love under the circumstances (losing my mother and physical injury). Is it just me or is there something wrong with this picture? He's not a bad person, but I don't get how someone who claims they love you and that you're the most important thing to them can then leave at a time when you need them the most.
When someone is prepared to leave a relationship, it pretty much doesn't matter what happens. When they are gone, they are gone. The key is to forget anbout what they are not giving you and find other ways (family, friends, others in pain) to get what you need.
Blessings to you.