Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Hi, I'm new here so I thought I'd share the troubles I've had. I was married to my wife for 23 years and we had three boys and one granddaughter. I was always faithful to her and was a good provider tried to be a good father and husband. We never had a perfect marriage, I could never keep her happy. She started working later hours all the time with a new male co worker many times they were the only ones in the building. Then her style of dressing changed to more like clothes ateenager would wear. Alot of times when she said she was with one of her girlfriends I'd find out she was not with them. Well to make a long story short she told me she wanted a divorce so she could find her inner happiness. I begged hear to stay and told her she was just going through a mid life crisis but I came home one day and she had moved out and taken alot of the furniture. The thing that really hurt was she didnt take any pictures from the photo albums and hasn't ask for them. We went ahead with the divorce I got most of the bills and the house. My 22 year old son and his 4 year old daughter were living with us during the time and she has very little to do with the granddaughter now. They still live with me. It's been the hardest thing i've ever gone through I'm 44 years old and hate the thought of starting over. I try to hide the hurt from my kids but I know they can tell.
Welcome to our group! I think you will find there is a lot of support here and many people who are going through or have gone through what you are. It really helps us to not feel so alone, which is helpful : )
So from what youve described, it sounds like your wife is with this other man? Im sorry the pain you feel from her leaving and having little to do with her grandaughter. It sounds like you both married one another very young and Im guessing didnt experience many other relationships before getting married? Im not saying by any means thats an excuse for her to leave you and ask for the divorce .. but maybe could have something to do with it? I guess thats few and far between at this point, however just offering some insight.,, It sounds as though you feel abandoned and rightfully so since youve invested many years in the relationship with her. I always think to myself.. if someone doesnt wish to be with me its better to set them free and allow them to find happiness, whatever the case might be. Im hoping youve reached out to friends and family to help you during this time. Youre right, after being with someone for 23 years, and breaking up, it is like starting over. Think of it as a positive experience .. look as to the ways in which you can grow as an individual from the experience and maybe do things you wanted to go (hobbies, travel is time permits, focus on your son and grandbaby, theyre still living there and need you! : ) ) Focus on the haves, not the have - nots. Good luck to you ... keep us posted on how youre doing! Hugs
I returned to God and my faith after being gone for nearly 8 years. I am counting on Him to illuminate my path to true joy and happiness in the future.
I like you think that my STBX is going through a mid life crisis. I was not always there for her like I should have been and we did not communicate like a couple should.
I pray for you on this Thanksgiving day and hope that God will take you in His arms and comfort you and protect you as you move forward.
Everyone here is going through similar type pain and needs support. May you find help, comfort, and wisdom in the days to come.
Blessings to you, take care, Millie :)