ok read all this before you judge me please,
yesterday when i came out of work and walked to my car, my husband came from across the car park crying. He was in a right state. I felt so sorry for him, he looked awful, he was begging me to take him back. He said that he was not seeing anyone else and he loved only me. i felt really bad seeing the state on him. He said we needed to talk. He said that he would come see me today as he had to go somewhere tonight.
I got in my car and came home and did a lot of thinking, but was unsure what to do. my feelings for him were still there but he had hurt me in so many ways.
so i came up with a plan. i asked a friend of a friend to do me a favour and follow my husband. She was unknown to him and would use her car.
I let my husband come up after work today and arranged for this woman to be near my house so that when he left she could follow him.
well anyway, he came up and i know i broke the rules but this is something i had to do. He chatted to me about how he wanted to come home and that i should put his name on the business and share our life. loads of empty promises. I told him i had no trust in him anymore and that i would never put his name on the business because of it. we talked about lots of things and he said there was nobody else and that he wanted me. I so wanted to believe him and wish all the bad things hadnt happened. I loved the nice side of him and wished it was always like that.
He then said he had to go as he was going out with his 2 sons to the pub and that he would be in touch.and for me to think about things.
As soon as he left i text the friend that was waiting outside and she followed him, she kept me informed and told me he had pulled over to use his phone. soon he was off again and she kept on his tail. He was travelling in the opposite direction to where he told me he was going with his sons. she told me he had parked his car and met a blonde lady and had gone into a restaurant.
I jumped in my car and travelled to where they were, which took a while to get to. When i got there my friend pointed out to where they were at. I walked into the restaurant and i completely lost it. I had caught him out on his lies. I never swear or shout , but i did. I called him everything .He just looked at me in shock and said nothing.
The woman was very timid and i told her that he was with me earlier. she said he had told her we were divorced. I said no way, i told her he wont leave me alone and is crying to come back home. That he is a liar and a cheater.
He got up then and tryed to get me to leave. he sort of grabbed me and pushed me out the door. I snapped and hit him a few times and kicked him. He just looked at me in shock, I am not that way inclined and he knows that, i think i was shocked myself. I told never to contact me in any way, or come anywhere near me. and told the woman she was welcome to him and his lies.
Then i got in my car and drove home
I now can actually say that i am going to move forward and never let him try and worm his way back ever again.
I needed closure on this, as i was going through so many emotions. one day i would be strong and the next i would be weak. i loved him and felt unless i could actually catch him red handed and show him id seen him, he would continue to deny it. and i would never get him out of my head.
so now he knows i have gone from this weak controlled woman to a much stronger one . I dont think he be messing with me again. I will mot be taking anymore crap from him and hopefully one day find someone that will make me smile again.
Im sorry as time goes by , but i needed to do this